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I know many of you have "been there". I'm shocked and venting. I'm angry and sad. We have tried for years to help our son be successful. He continues to play the victim. He constantly lies and manipulates. Having a conversation with him is painful. He is 19yo (almost 20). We are trying...

Homeless Son.

Yes, I agree, I did help create some drama. I was just so angry that I got sucked into it again and I felt bad for the girlfriend because I know he is stringing her along. They will have to figure it out on their own. Thanks for your input!

Thank your for sharing! Yes, we adopted E from Russia at 18mo old. The relationship with your daughter sounds identical to ours. At times I just feel so guilty and pray God forgives me for Not being the Mom I know I should be to E. I agree, we enjoy the peace when he is not involved.

19yo son lives with girlfriend and her family. We have been waiting for the relationship to implode. Son has yet to hold a job for 90 days. He posted on FB he had a new job and was moving. (This is how he communicates with us) I texted him and asked questions, he responded. The next day I messaged the...

Thank you ALL for sharing your stories, comments and advice. It really takes a community, such as this, to help me get through this relationship with our son. As much as I love my extended family, many just don’t understand. Then I begin to question myself and wonder if I’m being too cynical...

Yes, I am sure he has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Thank you for your comments. You totally “get it”.

Yes, we definitely have boundaries. He would run away, lie, steal, sabotage relationships for his siblings, steal their money, scream at them they are not his real siblings, threaten them. We adopted all 3 children from Russia.

They always surprise you don’t they!?! Hope things go well for you.

19yo son (E) living with girlfriend out of state. Limited communication. Texts us when he has questions or needs money. Have not given him any. Instead we have offered to help him manage his income. Diagnosed with ASPD. Within the last 2 weeks E has messaged several family members claiming he wants to...

You should not have to wait. Insist with your pediatrician you want him tested and they should help you get appointment. School can also provide you with resources. They have many students with behavior issues. I would insist on meeting and behavior plan put into place. Tell them you want to support...

I listen to podcasts. Inner Integration on youtube is one of my favorites. Its beneficial to me and a great reminder. Meredith Miller says, "You DO NOT deserve someone who: Disrespects you, lies, disappears, avoids, claims zero responsibility and blame shifts." "Don't get sucked into fake...

All different families...not biologically related.

All: Thank you so much for your comments, insight and support! In short, the dinner went well. He still "talks in circles", has BIG plans that make little sense that I doubt will come to fruition and is ALWAYS the victim. It's almost comical. Previously I was in the conduct disorder forum...

It's been 1 year since we have seen our 18yo son. He has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), conduct disorder, narcissistic behavior. He chooses not to communicate with us. He will post a FB post to update his life and apparently we are supposed to read this. Otherwise, no communication. He did reach out and ask for...

You have just described our son who we adopted from Russia at 18mo old. I recommend continuing counseling but find one that knows what you are going through. You want one who is well acquainted with Reactive Attachment Disorder (Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)) and Anti Social Personality Disorder. Find one who has worked...

It does sound like your son is on the spectrum. If he is content with his peer relationships then there is nothing to worry about. In my opinion, the coach is trying to get rid of him. Your son is only 13 and goals are challenging even for adults. The coach should have reprimanded the kids for...

Sorry in advance for the totally disgusting topic here but I'm looking for help. It's been awhile since I posted. Son will be 18 in July. For the past 18 months he has been at a boarding school for troubled teens. He graduated with his high school diploma over Memorial Day Weekend. Yay! He...

Oh yes, we had to do the same. We would lock up our money, credit cards, and keys to vehicles. He liked to take a car during the middle of the night and come home in the wee hours of the morning. It's all so frustrating. Sounds like you are doing the right thing!

How frustrating! I would suggest finding a counselor for yourself and perhaps they can guide you. Unfortunately, I think you are going to have to kick her out. Do you pay for her phone? Does she do her own laundry? Make her own food? If you are doing everything for her that is a form of...