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Enable, set your boundaries, focus on the grandchildren, take care of them when you can. The grandchildren will remember and appreciate the time you gave them. You must pay it forward through your grandchildren now. Your son is on an uncertain path. Focus on your grandchildren and do what you...

Enable, you are doing the right thing, and I am sure it was difficult to tell your son he could no longer live in your household, but it was a necessary thing to do, and you did it! He won't stand on his feet and progress into adulthood if he keeps getting bailed out. At some point, despite his...

Leafy, I'm glad you took the time to write today. You helped me when I first came on this forum. Issues between mothers and daughters are a little different, and I appreciated your help. Hugs to you : )

Saddmom, I just saw your post and can relate as I have a daughter who lashed out like this for many years. She is now 27 and out of the house, but it took a long time to become detached from her. You have come to the right place for empathy and support. I think it is especially hard to deal with...

Bluebell, please go on your vacation. Yes, you will have a heavy heart, yes you will feel a little empty without your son, yes, you will feel guilt, but you may come back refreshed and healthier after a little escape from your environment. You need it. Your son has made his choice, however...

Very moving replies. I would have tried to be more patient, and less dead serious all the time. I took the job of parenting on like it was my solemn duty, much like my father did, but I didn't have the touch that he did in making it fun and wonderful to be around him. So, if I had to do it...

Lost, I had another thought reading over your post and those of the other members who posted: Worrying over whose version of the truth is believed is paralyzing. Worrying over what your friends or what the community might think about a problem that your family is experiencing is paralyzing...

Lost, if there's one thing I've learned over the last few years, it is this: most of our friends and acquaintances know we were adequate parents and some of them experienced trying times with their children as well. So, any time our daughter would threaten to "expose us for the rotten and...

Take care of yourself, KSM. I'm just getting over the flu that seems to be going around. Coughing up a storm too. Glad to read that your daughter has had some decent days.

Go Slow, I'm sorry you're missing your son. Hugs to you.

Pigless, good thoughts and prayers for your family, and a hugs to you in your time of need.

Lost, I experienced many of the same anxieties when our daughter had to leave our home last August. I worried that she would be preyed upon and let myself imagine all the worst that could happen. I would go drive around our town looking for her car when I had a lead on her whereabouts. It has...

Steve, you said that she is listening to her mother and has stopped the aggressive behavior towards you. To be fair, sometimes step children don't want to listen to a non-biological parent, I think everyone can agree with that. I can definitely empathize with your lingering feelings of...

Strengthened by Hope, your son's life is not your fault. Stop thinking his choices are your fault. Reread SWOT and RN0441's posts several times. They are trying to show you the way through their own experiences. Your son has had the skills to keep a roof over his head and two meals coming to...

Copa, I started intermittent dieting in January, and it works for me too! I was going to recommend this method, and you beat me to it : ) I fast twice a week for a 24 hour period, drinking only black coffee, water with lemon juice, and a little chicken broth (it's pretty salty, so I don't drink...

gingersgrl, I'm so sorry you are struggling with this. I'm sure you're horrified at what is happening, my heart goes out to you, your god daughter, and to the dogs. I agree with SWOT. You must get the police involved and get intensive help for her. What a terrible dilemma for you.

Boyzmom, we struggle with similar issues with our 27yo daughter. She lived with us until very recently, when things just got too out of hand with the insults, lack of job prospects, etc, etc. She too struggles with occasional auditory hallucinations. It's so hard. I don't have any advice, but...

T Rene, the knife thing is beyond reason. It sounds sexist to say this, maybe, but as a female, I feel much more intimidated by these kinds of actions than perhaps a man would in a similar situation. I'd have to ask my husband if he would call the police in this situation, but I can tell you I...

You know, Jodiehooks, it is true that none of us can advise each other, but I think what this forum does is give us permission to act in a direction that we want to go in, but that we lack the conviction to go towards, if this makes any sense. And getting input from others helps facilitate...

Percy, you know that your son's blaming statements are utterly ridiculous. But it hurts to hear them all the same, doesn't it? I've been following your thread, your son sounds intelligent, as do you. You've got a long three months ahead of you, and you will have to decide whether you will...