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Hi. I did not realize you did not reject the video. Thought you were talking about the drug relapse. I would definitely myself have set a strong boundary on the video. Take care and hugs.

Hi. Glad he is okay too. Must be a load off of your heart. Please don't think of his relapse as betraying you. It isnt....this is not about you. He is sick. If you make it about him doing this to you, I'm afraid of possibly hurtful negative consequences for him and you too. in my opinion its better if...

I'm so sorry about my phone's typos. I meant we wish it would be one and done after rehab. However that is very rare. So we, as parents, eventually learn how to let it play out and see that we can not really help or fix them. We have no control over anyone else, not even our kids. It's hard to...

Hi helpless. I am in NarAnon. Calm down. He relapsed because addicts are addicted and sick and it's usually not ine abd done. We want it to be, but if it weren't a serious disease, we wouldn't hear about what a big problem it is all over the country. We could just give them something to make it...

This is great Nomad

I know. I did this too. My daughter is also mentally ill. Until she was in her 30s I fought for her , ignoring the rest of my family. What I found out is that Kay had to be willing to do the fighting and she would not so I stopped. It was too draining and my marriage was suffering...the entire...

Hi. I am very very sorry for your pain. I get it. Do you go to any 12 Step meetings, either in person or on Zoom, like AL Anon or Nar Anon. I find my group to be very helpful. I'm in a Zoom group for Nar Anon. You can find all groups online. My daughter would never see a Psychiareist but I'd...

I'm sorry Confused. I wish you could move closer and see him sometime. Nephew us still in court. It never ends.

Hi. I'm sorry. My nephew has found out that the cops don't get involved in child custody even if there is a plan. They wont take kids from one parent to the other. It all has to be done in court and if your son is a teen he will have a say. They are more lenient as kids get older. Don't spend...

I never worked with ACT. Not sure what it is. Does your son get Disability,? If so, he has a case manager even if he doesn't use the case manager. I am thinking that you can try calling his Case Manager, who probably has connections. If your son is not already on SSDI, it would help him and...

Oh yes. Being shunned is hurtful. And cruel. But sadly we have no control over another person. Has your son been in therapy? I suggest it. Grieving the relationship of somebody who is still alive is different, but it is possible to cope with it and still be happy. He probably feels it is his...

Hi there. Welcome to the 21st century family (sigh). Estrangement is off the charts these days and most of the time the estranged person does not know why it happened....he or she is just ghosted. Thats the way most find out they are being discarded. Often a grown child is the one who does...

Hi there. Sorry you have to go through this. First if all, in my opinion this is really between your husband and his son. It isn't really up to you in my opinion. To get try to fix either person is enabling. This is where I am coming from. I'm in a 12 step group and no longer tell others what they should do...

Hi there. I am very sorry. Like you, it was me and the rest of my family or her and her abuse. I chose us. Almost lost my husband and my other kids by putting all I had into her. Life is much better now. I am also in therapy and an awesome Zoom Meeting 12 step program. You can ask for or...

Congrats and crossing g fingers. Is he still in rehab? What are the plans next?

Our age and health are in my opinion importent with older person adoption. Kids will need our care for at least 18 years and some much longer. I feel if husband and I adopted any infant now, in 10 years I will be 78. And he will be 10 with so many years left to go and no guantees we can make it. What...

Hi there and welcome again. I can only think of a few reasons why we get to the point that you are at with your daughter. One is fear of their violence. I also read an older mindbending story on this forum where a daughter stole all her parents money by tricking them. She was "helping" them...

Hi and welcome. Can you please sketch out the story a bit? You can't just decide to live in Canada. On the other hand, unless your son has a guardian, he is free to make his own decisions even if disabled. But first....are you maybe just panicking or is it realistic that he may do something...

I also want to mention that although you see your husband as used and abused (which is probably true) he loves his flawed son to pieces and possibly as much as he loves you. Not always helpful to make anyone choose. He likely isn't ready to put conditions on seeing him. This has to be his walk...

Hi and welcome to the place you don't want to have to come to. None of us do but here we are. I am not only on here for support, but have been a member of Nar Anon (for people who have loved ones on drugs,) for four years. I've been very involved in what to do and what I cant do about addiction...