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on the verge of giving up plan backfired- totally!!
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<blockquote data-quote="L3dean" data-source="post: 219595" data-attributes="member: 5987"><p>Ok - now what??</p><p></p><p>I took your advice and was extremely nice- I admitted that IF you take the most recent situations and only looked at them as a "first incident" my behavior would seem to be inappropriate and excessive... and that i do have problems *because of the past situations* ... and I even drew up a bank of questions I wanted to use to review the history packet to find out just where I went wrong with difficult child 3...</p><p></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How have I not been committed to parenting? </span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How have I not been making sound judgments and decisions?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How have I not put my children's needs before my own?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How have I not been an advocate for my son's needs?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">What has affected my job stability? </span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">What has affected my relationship stability?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How have I not demonstrated appropriate discipline and guidance?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">What type of discipline is effective for this child that I have not already tried?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Why do I currently have a low frustration tolerance?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How has my mood and behavior been effected by prolonged and constant stress?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How have I not managed my stress and behavior appropriately?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How have I not been accountable for my actions?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How do I not communicate appropriately?</span></span></p><p> <span style="color: black"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">How have I not managed my anger appropriately?</span></span></p><p> </p><p></p><p>the therapist now informs me that I should not have scheduled 3 appointment in 2 weeks- she wanted to have appointments open for people that have a "real need"- furthermore- she still refuses to look at the history packet and now doesn't even want to bother with the questions (therapy goals) either... she claims I am argumentative and defensive when I tried to get her to see things from my perspective (i.e. include the past as a reason I don't have any more patience; that I finally got to the point of being firm with boundaries, consequences, etc., find out what I did that was not the correct thing to do... and so on) </p><p></p><p>so what do i do now?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="L3dean, post: 219595, member: 5987"] Ok - now what?? I took your advice and was extremely nice- I admitted that IF you take the most recent situations and only looked at them as a "first incident" my behavior would seem to be inappropriate and excessive... and that i do have problems *because of the past situations* ... and I even drew up a bank of questions I wanted to use to review the history packet to find out just where I went wrong with difficult child 3... [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How have I not been committed to parenting? [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How have I not been making sound judgments and decisions?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How have I not put my children's needs before my own?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How have I not been an advocate for my son's needs?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]What has affected my job stability? [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]What has affected my relationship stability?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How have I not demonstrated appropriate discipline and guidance?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]What type of discipline is effective for this child that I have not already tried?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]Why do I currently have a low frustration tolerance?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How has my mood and behavior been effected by prolonged and constant stress?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How have I not managed my stress and behavior appropriately?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How have I not been accountable for my actions?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How do I not communicate appropriately?[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Arial]How have I not managed my anger appropriately?[/FONT][/COLOR] the therapist now informs me that I should not have scheduled 3 appointment in 2 weeks- she wanted to have appointments open for people that have a "real need"- furthermore- she still refuses to look at the history packet and now doesn't even want to bother with the questions (therapy goals) either... she claims I am argumentative and defensive when I tried to get her to see things from my perspective (i.e. include the past as a reason I don't have any more patience; that I finally got to the point of being firm with boundaries, consequences, etc., find out what I did that was not the correct thing to do... and so on) so what do i do now? [/QUOTE]
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