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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 713004" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Al Anon is more about you than your addicted loved one. I could not stop my minor daughter from taking drugs, even after homeschooling her. She sneaked out of the house...there was no way to totally stop her from sering fellow drug users.</p><p></p><p>I feel differently about drug treatment than most here, maybe because I just never had money to spare for expensive programs. Partly because my daughter quit all dangerous drugs plus cigarettes without therapy or rehab....</p><p></p><p> I believe that they quit when they want to quit and forced, expensive rehab is no better than free programs or voluntary, self help programs. Unless I were a millionaire, I would not spend a fortune on a program my loved one didnt believe in and wasn't invested in.</p><p></p><p>Many have spent everything they have and the loved one still uses. Then some, not just me, used just low cost resources, which my daughter was not interested in (she was not ready to quit), and later I saw my daughter quit while OUT of treatment. I dont think a rehab would have hurried her along. She wanted to use meth, cocaine, etc....Until she didnt. When she didnt, she stopped.</p><p></p><p></p><p>You know your daughter best and you know what you can do for her. Its about your feelings as well as hers. You will know if her mindset has really changed. It is a dramatic change in mindset and behavior, in treatment or not, when that lightbulb finally goes on. The lies and excuses stop. Thriving starts. Values and friends change. It is quite amazing!</p><p></p><p>Last thought: 12 Step is not for everyone. If her program doesnt do anything except that, ask your daughter what she feels would best hrlp her. There are non religious programs too out there.</p><p></p><p>Good luck. You deserve a break. I do hope your daughter has a breakthrough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 713004, member: 1550"] Al Anon is more about you than your addicted loved one. I could not stop my minor daughter from taking drugs, even after homeschooling her. She sneaked out of the house...there was no way to totally stop her from sering fellow drug users. I feel differently about drug treatment than most here, maybe because I just never had money to spare for expensive programs. Partly because my daughter quit all dangerous drugs plus cigarettes without therapy or rehab.... I believe that they quit when they want to quit and forced, expensive rehab is no better than free programs or voluntary, self help programs. Unless I were a millionaire, I would not spend a fortune on a program my loved one didnt believe in and wasn't invested in. Many have spent everything they have and the loved one still uses. Then some, not just me, used just low cost resources, which my daughter was not interested in (she was not ready to quit), and later I saw my daughter quit while OUT of treatment. I dont think a rehab would have hurried her along. She wanted to use meth, cocaine, etc....Until she didnt. When she didnt, she stopped. You know your daughter best and you know what you can do for her. Its about your feelings as well as hers. You will know if her mindset has really changed. It is a dramatic change in mindset and behavior, in treatment or not, when that lightbulb finally goes on. The lies and excuses stop. Thriving starts. Values and friends change. It is quite amazing! Last thought: 12 Step is not for everyone. If her program doesnt do anything except that, ask your daughter what she feels would best hrlp her. There are non religious programs too out there. Good luck. You deserve a break. I do hope your daughter has a breakthrough. [/QUOTE]
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