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<blockquote data-quote="svengandhi" data-source="post: 408471" data-attributes="member: 3493"><p>I'm very concerned that she is having other kids who are cutting school come over and hang out during the day. This opens your ex and possibly you up to liability if one of these kids is hurt at your home or if they find ex's liquor or medications and use them.</p><p></p><p>She should not be allowed to be in the home while your ex is not there. The house should be locked up tight and if you don't already have one, an alarm should be put on and she should not be given the password. I wouldn't take away her computer yet, but I would put a keylogger program of some sort on it to track where she goes and what she does. I'd put a gps locator on the cell phone as well to track her. How does ex know she stays home. Maybe she is going out and hanging with adult men. You might want to hide a nanny cam or two to see what she does in the house when she's alone (though she shouldn't be).</p><p></p><p>Do you get $ for taking care of her? Use some of it to hire a female former marine to come by in the morning and get her to school. Then have ex lock the house up. Once she's in school, the school is liable if she leaves during the day. Get her there and then let them handle it.</p><p></p><p>Maybe a more restrictive program would help? </p><p></p><p>I also wonder where her parents are that you have custody. Did they die in an accident (in that case, maybe she is having some reaction to that and it's fear/anxiety vs. defiance), are they addicts (was she born addicted?), were they teenagers who have no use for her or something else?</p><p></p><p>I feel for you and your ex. I went through a limited period of school refusal with my oldest which worsened for a while when we switched him to an alternative HS. Finally, he adjusted and now, at 20, most of his friends are kids he met through or at the alternative school.</p><p></p><p>One last thought, if the other kids know she was held back, she might be humiliated and not wanting to go to school if she is being teased about that. If that's the case, maybe she could move to another school where kids wouldn't realize that and she could say she was held back by her family, not her grades. One of my sons did K twice - he was started early because he was so bright but I decided to have him repeat with his age cohort because it turned out that he's dyslexic. At his birthday party in 3rd grade, kids were telling him that he couldn't be turning 9 because he was "left back" and did K twice so he had to be 10 and lying about it (he's big for his age anyway). I was there and was able to explain but I could see the panic and humiliation in my son's face when he thought other kids believed him to "be dumb." I can easily see that turning into a school refusal type of situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="svengandhi, post: 408471, member: 3493"] I'm very concerned that she is having other kids who are cutting school come over and hang out during the day. This opens your ex and possibly you up to liability if one of these kids is hurt at your home or if they find ex's liquor or medications and use them. She should not be allowed to be in the home while your ex is not there. The house should be locked up tight and if you don't already have one, an alarm should be put on and she should not be given the password. I wouldn't take away her computer yet, but I would put a keylogger program of some sort on it to track where she goes and what she does. I'd put a gps locator on the cell phone as well to track her. How does ex know she stays home. Maybe she is going out and hanging with adult men. You might want to hide a nanny cam or two to see what she does in the house when she's alone (though she shouldn't be). Do you get $ for taking care of her? Use some of it to hire a female former marine to come by in the morning and get her to school. Then have ex lock the house up. Once she's in school, the school is liable if she leaves during the day. Get her there and then let them handle it. Maybe a more restrictive program would help? I also wonder where her parents are that you have custody. Did they die in an accident (in that case, maybe she is having some reaction to that and it's fear/anxiety vs. defiance), are they addicts (was she born addicted?), were they teenagers who have no use for her or something else? I feel for you and your ex. I went through a limited period of school refusal with my oldest which worsened for a while when we switched him to an alternative HS. Finally, he adjusted and now, at 20, most of his friends are kids he met through or at the alternative school. One last thought, if the other kids know she was held back, she might be humiliated and not wanting to go to school if she is being teased about that. If that's the case, maybe she could move to another school where kids wouldn't realize that and she could say she was held back by her family, not her grades. One of my sons did K twice - he was started early because he was so bright but I decided to have him repeat with his age cohort because it turned out that he's dyslexic. At his birthday party in 3rd grade, kids were telling him that he couldn't be turning 9 because he was "left back" and did K twice so he had to be 10 and lying about it (he's big for his age anyway). I was there and was able to explain but I could see the panic and humiliation in my son's face when he thought other kids believed him to "be dumb." I can easily see that turning into a school refusal type of situation. [/QUOTE]
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