His power is limited, he can make life unpleasant, but this too shall pass, he's 18 in 1 year 1 month. The day I put his 
on the porch, or tell Him I'll give him a plane ticket anywhere and he realizes he is completely without the love and support his parents for the rest of his life and he's truly on his own, our power will be evident.
Life with the other two and my wife is about perfect otherwise, if he stays over at a friends it's like the sun just came out after 2 weeks of terrible winter weather. The family dynamic is healthy, he's just mentally ill, I mean that's really what it comes down to.
My wife at times is not on the same page as me agreed. She is not as far along with realizing the situation and his mental state. She is where I was 1 1/2 years ago. She's also his mother, it's hard for her.
