Thanks everyone. He is a minor for 6 more months. I am standing my ground and right or wrong, I have not asked him to come home. He is not welcome here if he is choosing to abandon everything I ever tried to teach him. He was baptised 3 months ago and has avoided going to church ever since so, I am praying every day that God will intervene. I believe that is my best hope 
I do question myself every day wondering if the better mother would be over there beating down the doors and dragging him back. I also know that if he gets into leagal trouble right now it would be me having to answer for it and that scares me bad! Yet, I just don't think he will come out of this quickly enough and get back on track unless HE wants to come home and realizes that rules are necessary to keep us safe and happy. I also think that he needs to miss his family to realize what he has.
