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17 yr old son, defiant and using
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<blockquote data-quote="rc606" data-source="post: 638919" data-attributes="member: 18472"><p>So, we had the preliminary hearing. No judge, just the Court Designated Worker...who I liked quite a bit. She spoke to my wife and I first, and it was apparent from the beginning that this woman was not on board with defiant, rebellious, drug using, school failing, runaway children. I cried a bit and she yelled at me, lol. She said it's time for tough love and I fully agree.</p><p></p><p>She ate him up, he cried and acted angry and defiant as she explained that he was a child and under my control until he was 18. Also, that my ONLY obligation as his Father was to feed, clothe and house him and all the other luxuries that I provide him are just that, luxuries. She put him on a "diversion" program which includes daily counseling while he's at school during his elective period. There were also a plethora of other requirements and the ONLY penalty for non-compliance is juvenile detention center.</p><p></p><p>Every time I spoke and corrected him as he gave her incorrect answer to her questions, was met with anger and back talk. Finally she put a stop to him acting this way by saying, "it looks to me that you want to go the JDC, based on your lies and anger towards your Dad". After that, he just sat there....eyes glazed over and numb looking.</p><p></p><p>I honestly don't believe that difficult child will take this opportunity to turn things around, and sadly he'll be in the JDC. I don't give it two weeks, but having said that...I'm going to do everything I can to make this work for him because I love him. Thanks to all of you for your support and advice...it's been immeasurably helpful. Thanks so much</p><p></p><p>Best,</p><p></p><p>Rick</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rc606, post: 638919, member: 18472"] So, we had the preliminary hearing. No judge, just the Court Designated Worker...who I liked quite a bit. She spoke to my wife and I first, and it was apparent from the beginning that this woman was not on board with defiant, rebellious, drug using, school failing, runaway children. I cried a bit and she yelled at me, lol. She said it's time for tough love and I fully agree. She ate him up, he cried and acted angry and defiant as she explained that he was a child and under my control until he was 18. Also, that my ONLY obligation as his Father was to feed, clothe and house him and all the other luxuries that I provide him are just that, luxuries. She put him on a "diversion" program which includes daily counseling while he's at school during his elective period. There were also a plethora of other requirements and the ONLY penalty for non-compliance is juvenile detention center. Every time I spoke and corrected him as he gave her incorrect answer to her questions, was met with anger and back talk. Finally she put a stop to him acting this way by saying, "it looks to me that you want to go the JDC, based on your lies and anger towards your Dad". After that, he just sat there....eyes glazed over and numb looking. I honestly don't believe that difficult child will take this opportunity to turn things around, and sadly he'll be in the JDC. I don't give it two weeks, but having said that...I'm going to do everything I can to make this work for him because I love him. Thanks to all of you for your support and advice...it's been immeasurably helpful. Thanks so much Best, Rick [/QUOTE]
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