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17 yr old son doing drugs, hanging w members of a gang in NY
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 675489" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>The originator of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is Marsha Linehan. When I first learned about strategic therapies she had not yet codified DBT. It has become tremendously used with people who had heretofore been thought as unable to be treated. As treatment resistant.</p><p></p><p>I found a book online through google, where they show you parts of the book, but do not let you copy it. I think this is the title: the therapeutic relationship in dialectical behavioral therapy.</p><p></p><p>I read a little bit: they talk about paradoxical interventions and making lemonade out of lemons and speak of this as allowing natural change. That is on page 251.</p><p></p><p>I have Linehan's first book here at home. I will try to look it over the next few days.</p><p></p><p>The way I would understand your situation is that, if I was looking at it this way:</p><p></p><p>By bringing up emancipation, you are tapping your son's own power, going with his strength, not against it. You take away any "win" he may get by opposing you, or making self-destructive choices. You are making lemons from lemonade. Your son's great strength is his personal power, his willingness to go it alone. An insistence upon doing it his own way.</p><p></p><p>Fine you say. We will support you. How? He is stunned. You have gotten his attention. All of the wind to oppose you, to defy you, has lost it's win.</p><p></p><p>Your son is no longer defiant because you have gotten out of the way. If you are with him, what is there to oppose? The new brew, the lemonade, is sweetened by your support, your willingness to stand with him. Your acceptance that the only thing that is important is that he learn how to live.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 675489, member: 18958"] The originator of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is Marsha Linehan. When I first learned about strategic therapies she had not yet codified DBT. It has become tremendously used with people who had heretofore been thought as unable to be treated. As treatment resistant. I found a book online through google, where they show you parts of the book, but do not let you copy it. I think this is the title: the therapeutic relationship in dialectical behavioral therapy. I read a little bit: they talk about paradoxical interventions and making lemonade out of lemons and speak of this as allowing natural change. That is on page 251. I have Linehan's first book here at home. I will try to look it over the next few days. The way I would understand your situation is that, if I was looking at it this way: By bringing up emancipation, you are tapping your son's own power, going with his strength, not against it. You take away any "win" he may get by opposing you, or making self-destructive choices. You are making lemons from lemonade. Your son's great strength is his personal power, his willingness to go it alone. An insistence upon doing it his own way. Fine you say. We will support you. How? He is stunned. You have gotten his attention. All of the wind to oppose you, to defy you, has lost it's win. Your son is no longer defiant because you have gotten out of the way. If you are with him, what is there to oppose? The new brew, the lemonade, is sweetened by your support, your willingness to stand with him. Your acceptance that the only thing that is important is that he learn how to live. COPA [/QUOTE]
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