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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 766336" data-attributes="member: 22597">Copa,I could feel your pain and anger as I read your words. My heart hurt for you as I read of the lack of understanding, empathy, or desire to want to know. I know from past posts you have mentioned these long-time friends who never speak or ask of your son. I know people are uncomfortable but it feels more painful to have people NOT ask or say anything. And I know what it is to look at other people's lives and see what appears to be affluence, success, and picture-perfect relationships.&nbsp; I have to remind myself that things are not always as they appear on the outside.&nbsp; I could be wrong, but I suspect there's a lot of things going on that are kept carefully concealed to maintain the facade of success. To me, people who cannot or will not make an effort to enter into the pain someone is enduring are to be pitied.&nbsp; There is nothing about you that would prevent friendship and caring--you are a very caring person.&nbsp; The time you contribute to offering perspective to others, as well as your willingness to share deeply personal things with strangers because they need to know they are not alone, demonstrates a generous spirit.&nbsp;&nbsp; I'm glad you have a few people in your life you can talk to. I just feel so bad for you that the others are not there for you in that way.&nbsp; I hope, (for your sake, not theirs) that you can extend forgiveness. They're the ones who are missing out---they're missing out on the blessing of helping to lighten the burden of someone they supposedly care for. Yes, there is great loneliness and sorrow each of us here carries with us each day. For myself, I have to &quot;compartmentalize&quot; what is happening away in a corner of my mind in order to go out into the world and fulfill what I have to do each day.&nbsp; Like I wrote a couple of moments ago in another reply, I wish we all lived within two hours of one another and we could meet every so often to share and support one another!&nbsp; <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="Beta, post: 766336, member: 22597"] Copa, I could feel your pain and anger as I read your words. My heart hurt for you as I read of the lack of understanding, empathy, or desire to want to know. I know from past posts you have mentioned these long-time friends who never speak or ask of your son. I know people are uncomfortable but it feels more painful to have people NOT ask or say anything. And I know what it is to look at other people's lives and see what appears to be affluence, success, and picture-perfect relationships. I have to remind myself that things are not always as they appear on the outside. I could be wrong, but I suspect there's a lot of things going on that are kept carefully concealed to maintain the facade of success. To me, people who cannot or will not make an effort to enter into the pain someone is enduring are to be pitied. There is nothing about you that would prevent friendship and caring--you are a very caring person. The time you contribute to offering perspective to others, as well as your willingness to share deeply personal things with strangers because they need to know they are not alone, demonstrates a generous spirit. I'm glad you have a few people in your life you can talk to. I just feel so bad for you that the others are not there for you in that way. I hope, (for your sake, not theirs) that you can extend forgiveness. They're the ones who are missing out---they're missing out on the blessing of helping to lighten the burden of someone they supposedly care for. Yes, there is great loneliness and sorrow each of us here carries with us each day. For myself, I have to "compartmentalize" what is happening away in a corner of my mind in order to go out into the world and fulfill what I have to do each day. Like I wrote a couple of moments ago in another reply, I wish we all lived within two hours of one another and we could meet every so often to share and support one another! :) [/QUOTE]

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