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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 741955" data-attributes="member: 23349">Welcome exhausted. I’m so sorry you find yourself here. My eldest is turning 33 and still is on this path, which probably will not comfort you. He does not live with me - I can’t have him here - and has chosen to live on the fringes os society. I have had to learn I cannot change it. BUT your son is young, and many can and do change, especially if drugs are the primary problem rather than a symptom of deeper issues, or if underlying mental health issues are addressed. So I would not give up hope just yet.What I would do is give yourself permission to take a break. He is not living with you, so he is not disrupting your daily life right now. Give yourself permission to enjoy that peace. Give yourself permission to put the burden of worry down for a while. It will always be there, but you don’t have to carry it continuously. Put it down. Your son does not know or care right now whether you are worried about him or not, and your worry will not change the outcome one bit. As Copa says, just sit with things. Take care of yourself. Hold onto your love for him, but live your life. He is on his own path right now.&nbsp; I pray for you that he finds his way. Some of our kids seem to have a need to take the hard road.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 741955, member: 23349"] Welcome exhausted. I’m so sorry you find yourself here. My eldest is turning 33 and still is on this path, which probably will not comfort you. He does not live with me - I can’t have him here - and has chosen to live on the fringes os society. I have had to learn I cannot change it. BUT your son is young, and many can and do change, especially if drugs are the primary problem rather than a symptom of deeper issues, or if underlying mental health issues are addressed. So I would not give up hope just yet. What I would do is give yourself permission to take a break. He is not living with you, so he is not disrupting your daily life right now. Give yourself permission to enjoy that peace. Give yourself permission to put the burden of worry down for a while. It will always be there, but you don’t have to carry it continuously. Put it down. Your son does not know or care right now whether you are worried about him or not, and your worry will not change the outcome one bit. As Copa says, just sit with things. Take care of yourself. Hold onto your love for him, but live your life. He is on his own path right now. I pray for you that he finds his way. Some of our kids seem to have a need to take the hard road. [/QUOTE]

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