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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 483725" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome to the board DrPepper <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Yup. I totally agree it's terrible to feel ashamed of your kid. I have one I'm ashamed of. I look at her adult behavior and I find myself amazed. I didn't raise her per se, but her biomom was maybe not the brightest bulb in the box but she wasn't bad either, and we did our best by her when she visited us. And I know how she was raised and it was nothing like what she's doing to her own kids.</p><p></p><p>If you really do want your son out, then set a move out date and make it so. As an adult child it is a privilege to live at home, not a right. It's not being mean or heartless or cruel. It's telling him simply that the time has come for him to grow up. Alot of kids need this push from the nest.</p><p></p><p>My adult kids had rules to follow. First one being to pay rent. It's just not a free ride as an adult. It's pay rent or go to school full time with passing grades. </p><p></p><p>If we keep the status quo once they turn into adults.......what motivation is there to move out and make their own life. I mean I know most kids can't wait to do exactly that, but for the kid with lack of desire there is just no motivation to do so. </p><p></p><p>As for us parents, we do the best we can with what we know at the time. That you're here, tells me you care enough to look for answers. That he's being treated does too. So that alone says alot. Once they turn 18 we have no more control over what they do. From then on it's their ballgame.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 483725, member: 84"] Welcome to the board DrPepper :) Yup. I totally agree it's terrible to feel ashamed of your kid. I have one I'm ashamed of. I look at her adult behavior and I find myself amazed. I didn't raise her per se, but her biomom was maybe not the brightest bulb in the box but she wasn't bad either, and we did our best by her when she visited us. And I know how she was raised and it was nothing like what she's doing to her own kids. If you really do want your son out, then set a move out date and make it so. As an adult child it is a privilege to live at home, not a right. It's not being mean or heartless or cruel. It's telling him simply that the time has come for him to grow up. Alot of kids need this push from the nest. My adult kids had rules to follow. First one being to pay rent. It's just not a free ride as an adult. It's pay rent or go to school full time with passing grades. If we keep the status quo once they turn into adults.......what motivation is there to move out and make their own life. I mean I know most kids can't wait to do exactly that, but for the kid with lack of desire there is just no motivation to do so. As for us parents, we do the best we can with what we know at the time. That you're here, tells me you care enough to look for answers. That he's being treated does too. So that alone says alot. Once they turn 18 we have no more control over what they do. From then on it's their ballgame. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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