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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 764972" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Why shame? She is in jail because of her own decisions and actions. Likewise, for her brother. He was at the restaurant with his family because he made different choices that did not land him in jail. This is a false equivalency.</p><p></p><p>Why? Same comment. She is in jail because of her own decisions and actions. She can avail herself of treatment. Life does not treat all of us equally. Partly because we are not equal. We have different personalities, capacities and attributes. We don't approach life in the same way, all of us.</p><p></p><p>Being heartbroken? This is your responsibility to change. You don't have to dwell on a way of thinking that makes you feel crushed and guilty. You can challenge thought patterns that do not work for you. </p><p></p><p>We don't all have the same life. But we have the same responsibility, each of us. To meet the lives we are given with grace, work, and good character.</p><p></p><p>I remember the killings at the Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh about 5 years ago. Among those killed were two brothers who lived together. They were mentally retarded. They lived together and were in their 50s or so when they died. I don't think either brother worked. They built their lives around their congregation and their spiritual lives. They were always there to celebrate the Sabbath and any other activity and celebration. They were pillars of their community. I am certain that their deceased parents did not feel self-pity raising their sons. They raised their children to be the best men that they could be. And this is how these men lived. As good men. Good community members. Giving and responsible.</p><p></p><p>Our children have the same potential. To reach their potential we have to accept them as they are and hold them responsible. Not pity them. Our children must step up and we must step up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 764972, member: 18958"] Why shame? She is in jail because of her own decisions and actions. Likewise, for her brother. He was at the restaurant with his family because he made different choices that did not land him in jail. This is a false equivalency. Why? Same comment. She is in jail because of her own decisions and actions. She can avail herself of treatment. Life does not treat all of us equally. Partly because we are not equal. We have different personalities, capacities and attributes. We don't approach life in the same way, all of us. Being heartbroken? This is your responsibility to change. You don't have to dwell on a way of thinking that makes you feel crushed and guilty. You can challenge thought patterns that do not work for you. We don't all have the same life. But we have the same responsibility, each of us. To meet the lives we are given with grace, work, and good character. I remember the killings at the Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh about 5 years ago. Among those killed were two brothers who lived together. They were mentally retarded. They lived together and were in their 50s or so when they died. I don't think either brother worked. They built their lives around their congregation and their spiritual lives. They were always there to celebrate the Sabbath and any other activity and celebration. They were pillars of their community. I am certain that their deceased parents did not feel self-pity raising their sons. They raised their children to be the best men that they could be. And this is how these men lived. As good men. Good community members. Giving and responsible. Our children have the same potential. To reach their potential we have to accept them as they are and hold them responsible. Not pity them. Our children must step up and we must step up. [/QUOTE]
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