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20yo difficult child determined to get married - soon
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 498469" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>You have a lot going on! The divorce rate is high for the average couple and extremely high for their age. I married young and it was a huge mistake, so I can understand your worries.</p><p>I'm surprised the parents are letting them live together. My 18yo nephew and his 16yo girlfriend found themselves pregnant and my sister insisted they get married. Religous reasons. in my opinion it was a mistake for them to marry so young, both were very immature . They are still together after 5 years but struggling.</p><p>I think they have romantisiced getting married and with her parents supporting it so much it's not going to be easy for you to change their minds. A true counselor would point out the hills they will have to climb together, just being married for 5 years does not make you a marriage counselor, in my opinion! </p><p>In the past people thought that getting married would 'straighten out' a problem child and make them grow up. NOT TRUE! I married a difficult child and I was not mature enough to realize it. </p><p>I know an Aspie and I don't think you are going to be able to talk him out of it. If the other parents also wanted them to wait a while it would help tremendously. The other parents seem to be missing the fact that the couple can not supprt themselves financially.</p><p>Sadly, I don't think there is anything you can do other than keep talking to him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 498469, member: 13558"] You have a lot going on! The divorce rate is high for the average couple and extremely high for their age. I married young and it was a huge mistake, so I can understand your worries. I'm surprised the parents are letting them live together. My 18yo nephew and his 16yo girlfriend found themselves pregnant and my sister insisted they get married. Religous reasons. in my opinion it was a mistake for them to marry so young, both were very immature . They are still together after 5 years but struggling. I think they have romantisiced getting married and with her parents supporting it so much it's not going to be easy for you to change their minds. A true counselor would point out the hills they will have to climb together, just being married for 5 years does not make you a marriage counselor, in my opinion! In the past people thought that getting married would 'straighten out' a problem child and make them grow up. NOT TRUE! I married a difficult child and I was not mature enough to realize it. I know an Aspie and I don't think you are going to be able to talk him out of it. If the other parents also wanted them to wait a while it would help tremendously. The other parents seem to be missing the fact that the couple can not supprt themselves financially. Sadly, I don't think there is anything you can do other than keep talking to him. [/QUOTE]
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