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20yo difficult child determined to get married - soon
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 498474" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Sending a huge hug your way. difficult child#2 is an adhd Aspie and is basically kind but..when he got his first intimate girlfriend he was so absorbed it was scarey. It's like he can't focus on two aspects of life at once. He also "decides" that x is a valid opinion and therefore anyone who agrees with x is therefore his friend.</p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion you are doing everything you can. I think you have done wonderfully, in fact. Your thoughts and fears are totally valid as you know. The problems are your son's singlemindedness of focus combined with a family of limited capacity. I would guess that the daughter is at the least "behind the curve" and may be actually disabled and therefore directed in every action by her parents.</p><p></p><p>I understand, also, your concern about his lack of intellectural curiosity in his new environment. Likely all of them are role playing to attain comfort in life. Chances are girlfriend is hoping to "make precious little babies" early on as well. Lordy I am losing my impartiality, lol, because it is ringing so true...and so sad to me. I promise to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Sure wish I had an answer. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 498474, member: 35"] Sending a huge hug your way. difficult child#2 is an adhd Aspie and is basically kind but..when he got his first intimate girlfriend he was so absorbed it was scarey. It's like he can't focus on two aspects of life at once. He also "decides" that x is a valid opinion and therefore anyone who agrees with x is therefore his friend. in my humble opinion you are doing everything you can. I think you have done wonderfully, in fact. Your thoughts and fears are totally valid as you know. The problems are your son's singlemindedness of focus combined with a family of limited capacity. I would guess that the daughter is at the least "behind the curve" and may be actually disabled and therefore directed in every action by her parents. I understand, also, your concern about his lack of intellectural curiosity in his new environment. Likely all of them are role playing to attain comfort in life. Chances are girlfriend is hoping to "make precious little babies" early on as well. Lordy I am losing my impartiality, lol, because it is ringing so true...and so sad to me. I promise to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Sure wish I had an answer. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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