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20yo difficult child determined to get married - soon
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 498798" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Hello and welcome, I too agree that they are too young to marry but also realize that there is little you can do about it. </p><p></p><p>I do have a little different take on your son though. My easy child/difficult child is of superior intelligence. He graduated college *** laude (with honors) using his modifications. When he started looking for a job in his field he couldn't get one due to his quirky ways and his inability to read social cues and body language. He gave up and got a job as a route driver for a food company. He saved up his money and he bought his own place. But being on his own was too hard for him. He became overwhelmed and started drinking and then when a huge crisis came upon him, he had a break with reality. After a hospitalization and rehab he is living with us. He is doing well almost ready to go back to work but he does not want to go back out on his own just yet or maybe not at all. The point I am making is that life is very hard for an Aspie. Their intelligence does not insure that they can or will do ok on their own. So maybe for your son being a part of a group that functions as a faimly without high expectations for sucess is actually what makes him comfortable and happy. It is a different perspective but one that might need to be considered. We all want our kids whether normal or challenged, to be the best they can be. But we often forget to factor in the happiness quotient. Being a professor, while prestiegous and fairly lucrative would be alot of pressure on a person with poor social skills and organizational difficulties. Sometimes less is definetly more for these Aspie adults.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 498798, member: 2315"] Hello and welcome, I too agree that they are too young to marry but also realize that there is little you can do about it. I do have a little different take on your son though. My easy child/difficult child is of superior intelligence. He graduated college *** laude (with honors) using his modifications. When he started looking for a job in his field he couldn't get one due to his quirky ways and his inability to read social cues and body language. He gave up and got a job as a route driver for a food company. He saved up his money and he bought his own place. But being on his own was too hard for him. He became overwhelmed and started drinking and then when a huge crisis came upon him, he had a break with reality. After a hospitalization and rehab he is living with us. He is doing well almost ready to go back to work but he does not want to go back out on his own just yet or maybe not at all. The point I am making is that life is very hard for an Aspie. Their intelligence does not insure that they can or will do ok on their own. So maybe for your son being a part of a group that functions as a faimly without high expectations for sucess is actually what makes him comfortable and happy. It is a different perspective but one that might need to be considered. We all want our kids whether normal or challenged, to be the best they can be. But we often forget to factor in the happiness quotient. Being a professor, while prestiegous and fairly lucrative would be alot of pressure on a person with poor social skills and organizational difficulties. Sometimes less is definetly more for these Aspie adults. [/QUOTE]
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