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21 year old son refuses to stop smoking weed in the house.....
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<blockquote data-quote="isacha1" data-source="post: 733322" data-attributes="member: 18382"><p>I had to do the same thing when my son was 19. Only I let it go on for too long. For years. I would give him the rules over and over but didn't follow through with the consequences. It wasnt just the smoking in the house. It was total disrespect. No effort to improve himself or his life or to cooperate at all, No respect for any authority or property, Stealing, etc. Until finally one day my husband found his stash of mj. My son went crazy on him and attacked him physically because my husband wouldn't give it back to him. My husband told him he will give it back if he leaves the house and never comes back. My son said ok. So my husband gave it to him. A restraining order was filed. My husband left too. My son kept coming back even sleeping in the dirt on the side of the house because I would not let him in. I even called the police to let them know he has a restraining order and keeps coming around. They took him and held him just over night. Since then my sisters and brother have taken him in only to kick him out because of same reasons. He has been in and out of rehab but always leaving before any progress. Also been held in psychiatric hospitals several times because of being on meth. He's now 23 and recently got into job corp. He was doing so well for 6 months but was kicked out for failing a random drug test. He didn't follow through with going to NA meetings or therapy. Through these last years that he hasn't lived with me I still helped him anyway I could when it came to him wanting to make a positive change. Like go to rehab, dr appointments etc. I would even take his little sister and brother to go visit him and spend fun weekends together while he was at job corps. Now since being kicked out I let him stay with me a couple of days but wont let him stay permanently because he is still the same. Still is entitled wants me to set him up in a "fancy" hotel ( his words) and he is still getting high. He cannot stop smoking weed to save his life. I am thinking I still might be doing too much to help him. Yesterday I took him food and paid a night for him to stay in a motel and he said "I'm still hungry can you at least give me money to buy a pizza?" I think I need to cut him off completely. He still depends on me to figure things out for him. I'm trying to get him into rehab again so he at least has a roof over his head for a while. My only advice is to kick him out as soon as possible and let him fall and pick himself up. Previous poster gave good advice. Try to get your wife on board. It will only get worse and take longer and give you more years of suffering. I also believe they are making the choice themselves. He knows the rules and consequenses and chose to not follow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="isacha1, post: 733322, member: 18382"] I had to do the same thing when my son was 19. Only I let it go on for too long. For years. I would give him the rules over and over but didn't follow through with the consequences. It wasnt just the smoking in the house. It was total disrespect. No effort to improve himself or his life or to cooperate at all, No respect for any authority or property, Stealing, etc. Until finally one day my husband found his stash of mj. My son went crazy on him and attacked him physically because my husband wouldn't give it back to him. My husband told him he will give it back if he leaves the house and never comes back. My son said ok. So my husband gave it to him. A restraining order was filed. My husband left too. My son kept coming back even sleeping in the dirt on the side of the house because I would not let him in. I even called the police to let them know he has a restraining order and keeps coming around. They took him and held him just over night. Since then my sisters and brother have taken him in only to kick him out because of same reasons. He has been in and out of rehab but always leaving before any progress. Also been held in psychiatric hospitals several times because of being on meth. He's now 23 and recently got into job corp. He was doing so well for 6 months but was kicked out for failing a random drug test. He didn't follow through with going to NA meetings or therapy. Through these last years that he hasn't lived with me I still helped him anyway I could when it came to him wanting to make a positive change. Like go to rehab, dr appointments etc. I would even take his little sister and brother to go visit him and spend fun weekends together while he was at job corps. Now since being kicked out I let him stay with me a couple of days but wont let him stay permanently because he is still the same. Still is entitled wants me to set him up in a "fancy" hotel ( his words) and he is still getting high. He cannot stop smoking weed to save his life. I am thinking I still might be doing too much to help him. Yesterday I took him food and paid a night for him to stay in a motel and he said "I'm still hungry can you at least give me money to buy a pizza?" I think I need to cut him off completely. He still depends on me to figure things out for him. I'm trying to get him into rehab again so he at least has a roof over his head for a while. My only advice is to kick him out as soon as possible and let him fall and pick himself up. Previous poster gave good advice. Try to get your wife on board. It will only get worse and take longer and give you more years of suffering. I also believe they are making the choice themselves. He knows the rules and consequenses and chose to not follow. [/QUOTE]
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