Hi Greg,
My ex-husband and I were at different points with our son as well. I was ready to stop enabling and set some firm boundaries at one point...and my ex-husband kept giving Difficult Child lots of chances after that for months. I had to learn to live with it, and I finally was able to take a step back and realize it would happen whenever it would happen, or not. Again, I couldn't force it.
Finally, my ex-husband was sick and tired enough as well. The last straw for him was my Difficult Child stealing from them.
He was ready to set his own boundaries at that point.
I also felt relieved, some part of me, about our son not being on the street even though I knew it wasn't good for the enabling to continue.
His mom will get sick of it as well, at some point.
Hang in there, and try to enjoy your Thanksgiving. It's hard to do---and the holidays ramp it all up for all of us.
We're here for you in the meantime.
