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22 year-old-daughter stopped speaking to parents
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 721126" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Yes. Me. And its not uncommon.</p><p></p><p>The pattern is usually that we always loved and supported them and one day, when we never saw it coming, they cut us out of their lives. Often this follows our divorce or their meeting a new SO who doesnt like us, no matter what we do. The latter happened to me. Another time this is common is if we cut off any of the money. Suddenly, if they will talk to us, we hear puzzling allegations of how we "abused" them. Really??? They never are specific as to why they cut us off, it seems.</p><p></p><p>There is a site called Estranged Parents of Adult Children. I dont have the address anymore. It is very good. Maybe try to search for it.</p><p></p><p>With most adult kids who do this, I assume it is temporary. In our case we adopted our son at age six so we met him later in his young life than usual. Things went pretty well until he met his wife. She wanted him to herself. It has been fifteen years now. I am grateful for my other four adult kids and have long since stopped trying. When I groveled, he stopped having any respect for me.</p><p></p><p>I think giving her time to come to you is best. You will likely agitate the situation otherwise. I do think that those of us who put ourselves last and our kids first set ourselves up. They feel empowered by our extreme parent love and know how much they can hurt us. </p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself and focus on your own needs and your loved ones who are being kind to you. Let your daughter come to you.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and good luck!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 721126, member: 1550"] Yes. Me. And its not uncommon. The pattern is usually that we always loved and supported them and one day, when we never saw it coming, they cut us out of their lives. Often this follows our divorce or their meeting a new SO who doesnt like us, no matter what we do. The latter happened to me. Another time this is common is if we cut off any of the money. Suddenly, if they will talk to us, we hear puzzling allegations of how we "abused" them. Really??? They never are specific as to why they cut us off, it seems. There is a site called Estranged Parents of Adult Children. I dont have the address anymore. It is very good. Maybe try to search for it. With most adult kids who do this, I assume it is temporary. In our case we adopted our son at age six so we met him later in his young life than usual. Things went pretty well until he met his wife. She wanted him to herself. It has been fifteen years now. I am grateful for my other four adult kids and have long since stopped trying. When I groveled, he stopped having any respect for me. I think giving her time to come to you is best. You will likely agitate the situation otherwise. I do think that those of us who put ourselves last and our kids first set ourselves up. They feel empowered by our extreme parent love and know how much they can hurt us. Take care of yourself and focus on your own needs and your loved ones who are being kind to you. Let your daughter come to you. Hugs and good luck!! [/QUOTE]
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