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22yo Bipolar Son about to be homeless...again
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<blockquote data-quote="stillhopeful" data-source="post: 759579" data-attributes="member: 26448"><p>HiCsMom</p><p></p><p>Welcome. I too am new to posting on the forum, but I am not new to the problems you so clearly describe. It sounds like you are doing a great job of maintaining boundaries and not allowing your son back to live with you. The problems you describe may well take care of themselves when the probation officer discovers that your son left the rehab center and did not report it or his current address. When a very similar thing happened with my son he got 30 days in jail for probation violation. That was his first time in jail and I have to admit it was the calmest, best 30 days for me. Have no doubt, if he has been out of your home for four years, he is quite good at finding a place to stay. These kids use social media to play on the hearts of friends/strangers and there seems to always be someone else that will give them shelter and food. Most likely you will be worrying about him but I can assure you that he will not be worrying about you! You don't mention if there is a homeless shelter near you or if the weather is cold where you are. If you can find the strength, then stay strong and know that any financial help you provide will most likely go for pot. He has a friend, they will most likely be together and find some temporary place to stay until his probation officer finds him. That fact that he is only 22 bodes well in that he is still very young and likely will "grow up." But that is more likely to happen if you are able to stand back and let natural consequences unfold for him.</p><p></p><p>I truly know how incredibly difficult this is. If you believe in a higher power, try to release him to that power, knowing that really there is no way you can protect him from himself. I hope you can find some comfort and peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="stillhopeful, post: 759579, member: 26448"] HiCsMom Welcome. I too am new to posting on the forum, but I am not new to the problems you so clearly describe. It sounds like you are doing a great job of maintaining boundaries and not allowing your son back to live with you. The problems you describe may well take care of themselves when the probation officer discovers that your son left the rehab center and did not report it or his current address. When a very similar thing happened with my son he got 30 days in jail for probation violation. That was his first time in jail and I have to admit it was the calmest, best 30 days for me. Have no doubt, if he has been out of your home for four years, he is quite good at finding a place to stay. These kids use social media to play on the hearts of friends/strangers and there seems to always be someone else that will give them shelter and food. Most likely you will be worrying about him but I can assure you that he will not be worrying about you! You don't mention if there is a homeless shelter near you or if the weather is cold where you are. If you can find the strength, then stay strong and know that any financial help you provide will most likely go for pot. He has a friend, they will most likely be together and find some temporary place to stay until his probation officer finds him. That fact that he is only 22 bodes well in that he is still very young and likely will "grow up." But that is more likely to happen if you are able to stand back and let natural consequences unfold for him. I truly know how incredibly difficult this is. If you believe in a higher power, try to release him to that power, knowing that really there is no way you can protect him from himself. I hope you can find some comfort and peace. [/QUOTE]
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