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25 yr old son living at home, lies, steals, sneaks and cant keep a job
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 684801" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi TL and welcome to the forum, so sorry for your need to be here and your heartache. It is hard when our kids grow up and<em> do not grow up</em>. Especially with a health condition. Then it becomes extra hard. Then the whole thing about him imposing on his 80 year old grandparents. UGH.</p><p> This is a good start for you both. A therapist will be able to guide you and share possible resources.</p><p></p><p> I know that his grandparents are adults, and will do as they please, but there is also advocacy for the elderly. Perhaps when you go to the therapist he/she may have some ideas on this.</p><p></p><p>Your health is at risk. Keeping a disrespectful, out of line, lying, thieving adult child at home is not an option. Believe me, I know, been there, done that. It is awful.</p><p></p><p>PE forum has a good article on detachment, that will help strengthen you. You may even want to share it with the grandparents.</p><p><a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/</a></p><p></p><p>If they refuse to listen and will take him in, that is on them, not you.</p><p>It is not your responsibility to take in your adult son.</p><p>You have raised him.</p><p>He is not appreciative of your help.</p><p>He is dragging you down a slippery slope with him.</p><p></p><p>I know the frustration of this dear, stay with us and keep posting. You are not alone. There are many parents here who have experienced much the same. I am one of them.</p><p>Do not despair there are answers, one of the biggest ones is to take care of YOU.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 684801, member: 19522"] Hi TL and welcome to the forum, so sorry for your need to be here and your heartache. It is hard when our kids grow up and[I] do not grow up[/I]. Especially with a health condition. Then it becomes extra hard. Then the whole thing about him imposing on his 80 year old grandparents. UGH. This is a good start for you both. A therapist will be able to guide you and share possible resources. I know that his grandparents are adults, and will do as they please, but there is also advocacy for the elderly. Perhaps when you go to the therapist he/she may have some ideas on this. Your health is at risk. Keeping a disrespectful, out of line, lying, thieving adult child at home is not an option. Believe me, I know, been there, done that. It is awful. PE forum has a good article on detachment, that will help strengthen you. You may even want to share it with the grandparents. [URL]http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/[/URL] If they refuse to listen and will take him in, that is on them, not you. It is not your responsibility to take in your adult son. You have raised him. He is not appreciative of your help. He is dragging you down a slippery slope with him. I know the frustration of this dear, stay with us and keep posting. You are not alone. There are many parents here who have experienced much the same. I am one of them. Do not despair there are answers, one of the biggest ones is to take care of YOU. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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