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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 618063" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>I'll add to the horror stories...my son was sexually abused at a therapeutic boarding school by one of the older boys..the older one was expelled. They had aides there, a rule that two boys could never go to the bathroom together without an aide...but the aide didn't bother to go. SEveral times. </p><p>Awesome.</p><p>After paying a college tuitions worth of money to that same therapeutic boarding school, upon his discharge they told us we needed to find a nice 20 something young man, preferably with some course work or interest in behavior modification, who could act as a tutor as well as a friend (maybe play basketball) and mentor for our difficult child for oh, maybe 20 hours/week indefinitely. That difficult child's recovery would depend on that and that they, the school, would not be held accountable for his relapse if we failed to follow their recommendations and obtain such a person.</p><p>Where does one find such a person???????? We never could. We tried. difficult child went back to his old ways, and the school said...welll you didn't do what we told you. Not our fault.</p><p>HAHAHAHA. Great way to be, professionally. Make impossible recommendations, then you can never fail when people can't follow through.</p><p>When the man I trusted most in the world lied cheated and stole from me (and told all my deepest secrets to his new lover)...I actually tried to work things out with him. His therapist (because, damaged as he was, he also wanted to try) told him that I was harassing him by asking him for details and clarification about the lying, stealing, and cheating...this within weeks of my discovering it.</p><p>Lotta damage those folks can do.</p><p>I also had a great one, who helped me develop my own voice, to hear what I wanted, to see where my own boundaries, that I didn't even know existed or that I was afraid to see, were, and to feel ok about them. She was great.</p><p>So there are great ones, good ones, competent ok ones, and lousy ones. </p><p>There is also a gap between what a therapist says to a difficult child and what the difficult child reports to us.</p><p>Take it all with a grain of salt, thats all I can say.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 618063, member: 17269"] I'll add to the horror stories...my son was sexually abused at a therapeutic boarding school by one of the older boys..the older one was expelled. They had aides there, a rule that two boys could never go to the bathroom together without an aide...but the aide didn't bother to go. SEveral times. Awesome. After paying a college tuitions worth of money to that same therapeutic boarding school, upon his discharge they told us we needed to find a nice 20 something young man, preferably with some course work or interest in behavior modification, who could act as a tutor as well as a friend (maybe play basketball) and mentor for our difficult child for oh, maybe 20 hours/week indefinitely. That difficult child's recovery would depend on that and that they, the school, would not be held accountable for his relapse if we failed to follow their recommendations and obtain such a person. Where does one find such a person???????? We never could. We tried. difficult child went back to his old ways, and the school said...welll you didn't do what we told you. Not our fault. HAHAHAHA. Great way to be, professionally. Make impossible recommendations, then you can never fail when people can't follow through. When the man I trusted most in the world lied cheated and stole from me (and told all my deepest secrets to his new lover)...I actually tried to work things out with him. His therapist (because, damaged as he was, he also wanted to try) told him that I was harassing him by asking him for details and clarification about the lying, stealing, and cheating...this within weeks of my discovering it. Lotta damage those folks can do. I also had a great one, who helped me develop my own voice, to hear what I wanted, to see where my own boundaries, that I didn't even know existed or that I was afraid to see, were, and to feel ok about them. She was great. So there are great ones, good ones, competent ok ones, and lousy ones. There is also a gap between what a therapist says to a difficult child and what the difficult child reports to us. Take it all with a grain of salt, thats all I can say. [/QUOTE]
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