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27 year old son one step from the streets
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 713479" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Is your son disabled? If so he can apply for Disability and that comes with other services. If he isnt disabled he can find work, even if he is immature. Many 27 year olds are quite immature yet they do work and are not abusive. He can get restaurant work or construction and make enough to rent a roomil in somebodys house.i assume he qualifies for food assistance. He can buy food. My kids used to run to the corner gas station and buy their own candy at age ten.Get the point? He isnt helpless. You assume he cant do what young children can do. You sell him short. He wont is different from he cant.</p><p></p><p>I have an autistic son, 24, very young emotionally, but works two jobs, gets supplementary SSI, is kind and nice and hardworking and pays for his own apartment. He shops and goes himself without a car. He does not drive. If he can do it, with his challenges, so can your son. He doesnt want to.</p><p></p><p>Nobody who abuses you should share your roof. He blew that. Apparently he cant get along with anyone. That is his fault. Maturity is not required to treat people well. It is his character. Perhaps he inherited some bad genetics. My son did. My adopted auristic son was born with crack in his system. I had to fightlearning problems and a mood disorder. We have to overcome these things somehow.</p><p></p><p> We can. He can.</p><p></p><p>Fact is, if your son had treated you right, you would have been fine with him sharing your space. Again, this is his fault.</p><p></p><p>Try not to feel guilty. Your son is where he is because of himself and he can correct it. He wont if you rescue him.</p><p></p><p>Please take care and remember that he is a man. Immature or not, you cant live forever and when he is alone he better know how to do things alone. Nobody in our society will feel sorry for your grown son. They will see his 27 year old face and body and expect him to behave and follow the law. And he will have to care for his own needs.</p><p></p><p>Please do seek therapy. You do seem to see him as younger and less capable than he is and you need to see him for what and who he really is...and to nurture yourself <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 713479, member: 1550"] Is your son disabled? If so he can apply for Disability and that comes with other services. If he isnt disabled he can find work, even if he is immature. Many 27 year olds are quite immature yet they do work and are not abusive. He can get restaurant work or construction and make enough to rent a roomil in somebodys house.i assume he qualifies for food assistance. He can buy food. My kids used to run to the corner gas station and buy their own candy at age ten.Get the point? He isnt helpless. You assume he cant do what young children can do. You sell him short. He wont is different from he cant. I have an autistic son, 24, very young emotionally, but works two jobs, gets supplementary SSI, is kind and nice and hardworking and pays for his own apartment. He shops and goes himself without a car. He does not drive. If he can do it, with his challenges, so can your son. He doesnt want to. Nobody who abuses you should share your roof. He blew that. Apparently he cant get along with anyone. That is his fault. Maturity is not required to treat people well. It is his character. Perhaps he inherited some bad genetics. My son did. My adopted auristic son was born with crack in his system. I had to fightlearning problems and a mood disorder. We have to overcome these things somehow. We can. He can. Fact is, if your son had treated you right, you would have been fine with him sharing your space. Again, this is his fault. Try not to feel guilty. Your son is where he is because of himself and he can correct it. He wont if you rescue him. Please take care and remember that he is a man. Immature or not, you cant live forever and when he is alone he better know how to do things alone. Nobody in our society will feel sorry for your grown son. They will see his 27 year old face and body and expect him to behave and follow the law. And he will have to care for his own needs. Please do seek therapy. You do seem to see him as younger and less capable than he is and you need to see him for what and who he really is...and to nurture yourself :) [/QUOTE]
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