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<blockquote data-quote="Hope_Floats" data-source="post: 639962" data-attributes="member: 18310"><p>Another common thread that our difficult child's seem to have, that I thought was unique to mine. That "in a crisis one moment and unavailable the next".</p><p></p><p>I found it so rude, and so strange, that difficult child would text me to say "i need help" and "plz call me". When I let him know that I was sorry that I couldn't talk at the moment, but would let him know when I could, I followed through. I later texted that I was available for the next hour and a half, was this a good time for him? I got nothing. Crickets. I called later and asked why he hadn't responded at all, he said that he had finally found some time to clean up the apartment, and then his friend M had showed up to "hang out". </p><p></p><p>I told him that HE was the one that ASKED ME for help....and that if wanted for someone to feel like helping him, he could at LEAST be courteous enough to either be available at MY convenience to talk about whatever he needed, or at LEAST let me know that it wasn't a good time and what other time might be better. Just some common courtesy, you know? </p><p>(Of course that was before I realized that that kind of response from me was less than helpful, lol).</p><p></p><p>Anyway, didn't mean to go off on my own little rant. Just finding it interesting how similar their patterns are.</p><p></p><p>I agree that if he had REALLY been that desperate (or didn't get a better offer), he would have done more on his own behalf. It is helpful for us, I think, to see what they do when we "refrain", or at least hesitate. Good one, RE.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hope_Floats, post: 639962, member: 18310"] Another common thread that our difficult child's seem to have, that I thought was unique to mine. That "in a crisis one moment and unavailable the next". I found it so rude, and so strange, that difficult child would text me to say "i need help" and "plz call me". When I let him know that I was sorry that I couldn't talk at the moment, but would let him know when I could, I followed through. I later texted that I was available for the next hour and a half, was this a good time for him? I got nothing. Crickets. I called later and asked why he hadn't responded at all, he said that he had finally found some time to clean up the apartment, and then his friend M had showed up to "hang out". I told him that HE was the one that ASKED ME for help....and that if wanted for someone to feel like helping him, he could at LEAST be courteous enough to either be available at MY convenience to talk about whatever he needed, or at LEAST let me know that it wasn't a good time and what other time might be better. Just some common courtesy, you know? (Of course that was before I realized that that kind of response from me was less than helpful, lol). Anyway, didn't mean to go off on my own little rant. Just finding it interesting how similar their patterns are. I agree that if he had REALLY been that desperate (or didn't get a better offer), he would have done more on his own behalf. It is helpful for us, I think, to see what they do when we "refrain", or at least hesitate. Good one, RE. [/QUOTE]
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