I think she sounds antisocial not borderline. Even if she has borderline most borderlines refuse to admit anything is wrong with them and dont do the very hard work that DBT requires. This woman certainly doesnt seem willing to get treatment and do the work necessary.
As I have a not nice son (I love him very much but am not deluded) anyone who loves a not always safe adult child needs to make sure that adult doesnt hurt him or her.
There sadly are adult kids who we need to guard against. Cluster B Personality Disorders (Antisocial, Narcicistic and Borderline) are all red flags for good chances to abuse us and we must be mindful to take care. Yes, it is heartbreaking! But we all have other loved ones who need us to be healthy and strong. And we need to love and care for ourselves too. So we have to sometimes get therapy and learn to be safe and let go.
Borderline and Emotional Dysregulation Disorder are two names for the same personality disorder.
