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30 year old daughter has done horrible things to me
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<blockquote data-quote="Jenna0823" data-source="post: 742059" data-attributes="member: 23448"><p>Thank you so much for your reply. I have not ever sought therapy specifically about things my daughter has done. I was abused by my father as a child. He left when I was 12. I guess I learned to be a people pleaser and a codependent to my daughter. I just kept giving and giving to make her happy so she would be nice and not use drugs etc. I can’t understand her abandonment of her little boy. He is a beautiful well behaved little boy. This current pregnancy who knows how she will be. With the two children she has had she gets really stressed out and relapsed after they were a few months old. I am scared to death for my 11 year old granddaughter. I am sure deep down she has resentment for her mom never ever being there. Right now I think she is happy to just feel normal not living with her grandmother and aunt like she has most of her life. My daughters father is deceased. He was an alcoholic and eventually did drugs when I divorced him and was killed driving while drinking when my daughter was 15. My daughter was already acting up and started substance abuse prior to his death. Perhaps she saw him treat me badly and figured she would follow in his footsteps after he died. I am not one to fight back but rather take it and forgive over and over. I have read that victims of abuse become trauma bonded and it makes it hard to leave. At this point I just want my granddaughter back and at the first sign of anything not right with them even though I live hours away I will be right there to get her. And the new baby. I am 53 so I will do aall I can for my grandchildren. They are my heart and soul and they didn’t ask for a mother like her. My own mother spent so much time prior to her death in 2014 with my granddaughter as well as a very close relationship with my daughter as a child. She was taught love and kindness for sure. Thanks so much. Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jenna0823, post: 742059, member: 23448"] Thank you so much for your reply. I have not ever sought therapy specifically about things my daughter has done. I was abused by my father as a child. He left when I was 12. I guess I learned to be a people pleaser and a codependent to my daughter. I just kept giving and giving to make her happy so she would be nice and not use drugs etc. I can’t understand her abandonment of her little boy. He is a beautiful well behaved little boy. This current pregnancy who knows how she will be. With the two children she has had she gets really stressed out and relapsed after they were a few months old. I am scared to death for my 11 year old granddaughter. I am sure deep down she has resentment for her mom never ever being there. Right now I think she is happy to just feel normal not living with her grandmother and aunt like she has most of her life. My daughters father is deceased. He was an alcoholic and eventually did drugs when I divorced him and was killed driving while drinking when my daughter was 15. My daughter was already acting up and started substance abuse prior to his death. Perhaps she saw him treat me badly and figured she would follow in his footsteps after he died. I am not one to fight back but rather take it and forgive over and over. I have read that victims of abuse become trauma bonded and it makes it hard to leave. At this point I just want my granddaughter back and at the first sign of anything not right with them even though I live hours away I will be right there to get her. And the new baby. I am 53 so I will do aall I can for my grandchildren. They are my heart and soul and they didn’t ask for a mother like her. My own mother spent so much time prior to her death in 2014 with my granddaughter as well as a very close relationship with my daughter as a child. She was taught love and kindness for sure. Thanks so much. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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