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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 732623" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome, I'm glad you found us here but sorry you had to.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Compassion -vs- Enabling</p><p>Compassion is caring about someone and yes, helping them but how one helps someone can easily cross a line into enabling.</p><p>Enabling is when we do for someone that which they should and could be doing for themselves. Enabling is when what we do for someone is really not appreciated and expected.</p><p>At 32 your son should be doing for himself. He has a job so that is something good. Is it a good job? Does he make decent money?</p><p></p><p>It's always helpful for us to have a little more background so we can offer appropriate suggestions.</p><p></p><p>What I can tell you is that you can reclaim your life. Yes, it's terrible that your son is homeless but you did not do that to him and it does not have to define you. Your life matters. Trust me, I know the heartache all too well. I know the sleepless nights, I know the wondering and worrying. I've lived it for many years. I was able to move on from my sons dysfunctional life. I no longer lose sleep or worry about him. I have accepted that his life is his own, poor choices and all. My son is finishing a 2 year sentence. He was homeless when he was arrested and he will be homeless when he gets out unless HE decides to make some changes. I love my son dearly but I have no control over him or his choices but I do have control over my own life.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you are here with us. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 732623, member: 18516"] Welcome, I'm glad you found us here but sorry you had to. Compassion -vs- Enabling Compassion is caring about someone and yes, helping them but how one helps someone can easily cross a line into enabling. Enabling is when we do for someone that which they should and could be doing for themselves. Enabling is when what we do for someone is really not appreciated and expected. At 32 your son should be doing for himself. He has a job so that is something good. Is it a good job? Does he make decent money? It's always helpful for us to have a little more background so we can offer appropriate suggestions. What I can tell you is that you can reclaim your life. Yes, it's terrible that your son is homeless but you did not do that to him and it does not have to define you. Your life matters. Trust me, I know the heartache all too well. I know the sleepless nights, I know the wondering and worrying. I've lived it for many years. I was able to move on from my sons dysfunctional life. I no longer lose sleep or worry about him. I have accepted that his life is his own, poor choices and all. My son is finishing a 2 year sentence. He was homeless when he was arrested and he will be homeless when he gets out unless HE decides to make some changes. I love my son dearly but I have no control over him or his choices but I do have control over my own life. I'm glad you are here with us. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing. ((HUGS)) for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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