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<blockquote data-quote="Jonbaldbg" data-source="post: 700803" data-attributes="member: 20903"><p>Update on our situation with our son. He is hardly getting any work hours with his job at Macys. Best I can tell he isn't pounding the pavement trying to get a different job. He did go on one interview for a job that would be a good match for him, but I am not aware of any major attempt on his part to be out looking for a new job. He leaves in the morning after coffee and smokes. He may stop by during the afternoon for coffee, but then he's gone again until after our bedtime when he then comes home, smokes, and cooks hamburger helper and bakes garlic bread at midnight. </p><p></p><p>I do not know, for sure, but I believe he is spending most of his time at the game store. On Wednesday he asked me for $5 for more data on his phone and I reminded him he didn't pay his $30 cell and insurance bill to me the previous Friday. He said that was because his paycheck was only 7 hours. He could pay me back on Friday. So, I said you mean $65 on Friday? He wasn't sure he could do that, but I held my ground and he agreed. He then posted on Facebook about how his tank was on empty and the fuel light is one and he spent his last $4 on gas. I am fed up, so I texted him, there is a $20 bill on the side table. You don't need to pay it back, you don't need to acknowledge this text, you do not need to acknowledge the money, just take it and spend your other money on essentials like cigarettes and energy drinks (sarcasm).</p><p></p><p>We basically don't speak for the most part. There are certainly going to be no sit down, serious talks or trying to reason with him or help him. That does no good. </p><p></p><p>I am going to be gone for a week, so we are on hold until I get back. At that point, we are going to give him his exit from our home. We will probably give him 30 day notice. Although I don't think that is a legal requirement in our state, it seems like a fair amount of time to give someone. Those 30 days won't be much fun, but it will be good to get him out of the house. It will probably hard keeping him out and giving repeated "no's we won't give you money.</p><p></p><p>Enough is enough. I guess we probably should have done this years ago.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jonbaldbg, post: 700803, member: 20903"] Update on our situation with our son. He is hardly getting any work hours with his job at Macys. Best I can tell he isn't pounding the pavement trying to get a different job. He did go on one interview for a job that would be a good match for him, but I am not aware of any major attempt on his part to be out looking for a new job. He leaves in the morning after coffee and smokes. He may stop by during the afternoon for coffee, but then he's gone again until after our bedtime when he then comes home, smokes, and cooks hamburger helper and bakes garlic bread at midnight. I do not know, for sure, but I believe he is spending most of his time at the game store. On Wednesday he asked me for $5 for more data on his phone and I reminded him he didn't pay his $30 cell and insurance bill to me the previous Friday. He said that was because his paycheck was only 7 hours. He could pay me back on Friday. So, I said you mean $65 on Friday? He wasn't sure he could do that, but I held my ground and he agreed. He then posted on Facebook about how his tank was on empty and the fuel light is one and he spent his last $4 on gas. I am fed up, so I texted him, there is a $20 bill on the side table. You don't need to pay it back, you don't need to acknowledge this text, you do not need to acknowledge the money, just take it and spend your other money on essentials like cigarettes and energy drinks (sarcasm). We basically don't speak for the most part. There are certainly going to be no sit down, serious talks or trying to reason with him or help him. That does no good. I am going to be gone for a week, so we are on hold until I get back. At that point, we are going to give him his exit from our home. We will probably give him 30 day notice. Although I don't think that is a legal requirement in our state, it seems like a fair amount of time to give someone. Those 30 days won't be much fun, but it will be good to get him out of the house. It will probably hard keeping him out and giving repeated "no's we won't give you money. Enough is enough. I guess we probably should have done this years ago. [/QUOTE]
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