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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 765379" data-attributes="member: 18958">These decisions are his entirely. My son is 35. He has been homeless for many years. I have done everything I can think of to provide housing, and to urge him to avail himself of drug treatment, mental health and medical care, job training, and job placement.&nbsp; And anything else I can think of.&nbsp; He only gives the illusion or promise he's doing any of these things, to get what he wants to get. It's always on his terms. Finally, I woke up and smelled the coffee. Now he feels I don't love him. Well, his idea of love is very, very one-sided.This is ridiculous. You don't know if he will change his views. Everybody has the capacity to change. And blaming you for his problems? Laughable. He is a full-grown adult who is responsible for himself and for the consequences of his decisions. Living the life he thinks he wants, is the only way he will learn to make better choices. If he doesn't want to change, what in the world can you do?&nbsp; His life is his. Not yours.There is no reason at all for guilt. The change must come from you.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 765379, member: 18958"] These decisions are his entirely. My son is 35. He has been homeless for many years. I have done everything I can think of to provide housing, and to urge him to avail himself of drug treatment, mental health and medical care, job training, and job placement. And anything else I can think of. He only gives the illusion or promise he's doing any of these things, to get what he wants to get. It's always on his terms. Finally, I woke up and smelled the coffee. Now he feels I don't love him. Well, his idea of love is very, very one-sided. This is ridiculous. You don't know if he will change his views. Everybody has the capacity to change. And blaming you for his problems? Laughable. He is a full-grown adult who is responsible for himself and for the consequences of his decisions. Living the life he thinks he wants, is the only way he will learn to make better choices. If he doesn't want to change, what in the world can you do? His life is his. Not yours. There is no reason at all for guilt. The change must come from you. [/QUOTE]

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