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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 633601" data-attributes="member: 1550">Why don't you get him adult community services rather than making your entire life all about still being his mother? My son has autism and is 21 and out on his own with community support. Is he on disability? (He should be). You need to start at Aging and Disabilities and get him tested and eligible for services.I think your husband is being a bit hard on an adult child with actual cognitive issues, however, he also has a point. Do you want to be 90 and still taking care of him? You owe it to him and any other loved ones you have, but most of all TO YOURSELF to have a wonderful rest-of-your-life. In no way do you have to care for your son and his family, delays or not. There is help out there and he needs it. You can't live forever. He needs to get confidence with the help of advocates who can help him move away from you, yet not have to pay so much rent and not try to do it exactly as if he is an adult without any issues.Aging and disabilities: That should be your first stop tomorrow.If your son refuses to get community help, then it's time to make him do it himself. He will see that he can't and probably give in and get the offered help. My son loves his life and does not depend on us. I am 60 like you and I won't spend the rest of my years being a &quot;mommy.&quot; I need to enjoy my golden years. So do you and you deserve it as well! The money should be cut off now. There is money he can get from disability, he can get healthcare, housing and food stamps, and he should. These programs were set up especially for peopjle like our sons, who are a little bit different <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 633601, member: 1550"] Why don't you get him adult community services rather than making your entire life all about still being his mother? My son has autism and is 21 and out on his own with community support. Is he on disability? (He should be). You need to start at Aging and Disabilities and get him tested and eligible for services. I think your husband is being a bit hard on an adult child with actual cognitive issues, however, he also has a point. Do you want to be 90 and still taking care of him? You owe it to him and any other loved ones you have, but most of all TO YOURSELF to have a wonderful rest-of-your-life. In no way do you have to care for your son and his family, delays or not. There is help out there and he needs it. You can't live forever. He needs to get confidence with the help of advocates who can help him move away from you, yet not have to pay so much rent and not try to do it exactly as if he is an adult without any issues. Aging and disabilities: That should be your first stop tomorrow. If your son refuses to get community help, then it's time to make him do it himself. He will see that he can't and probably give in and get the offered help. My son loves his life and does not depend on us. I am 60 like you and I won't spend the rest of my years being a "mommy." I need to enjoy my golden years. So do you and you deserve it as well! The money should be cut off now. There is money he can get from disability, he can get healthcare, housing and food stamps, and he should. These programs were set up especially for peopjle like our sons, who are a little bit different :) [/QUOTE]

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