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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 635169" data-attributes="member: 1550">I just figured out (duh) that you posted at the end of an older post. You may want to post your own thread. You'll probably get a much bigger response that way.Your son knows how to behave. He is just not behaving and is refusing help. It doesn't change him if you are so scared over him that you can't function. You did the best you could and he isn't put forth an effort and you can't change that. Get help for yourself. That is the best advice I can give you. You can't change one thing about your son, but you can make your own life better and your response to his bad behavioral can become calmer, more logical, and more realistic. There are ways to cope while a loved one is self-destructing.You have a choice, like all of us. You can decide to get sick and go crazy over your son or you can decide to get healthy, live a good life, know you did your best and be there for your son if he decides he wants to come around. Our difficult children tend to suck all the air out of our world so that we make no room for our healthier adult/young children, our spouses, our SOs, our friends and our own selves. That's not fair to them or to us, in my opinion.I hope you chose to do all you can to learn how to take care of yourself. I think it would be a good idea to start with a private therapist. Hugs.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 635169, member: 1550"] I just figured out (duh) that you posted at the end of an older post. You may want to post your own thread. You'll probably get a much bigger response that way. Your son knows how to behave. He is just not behaving and is refusing help. It doesn't change him if you are so scared over him that you can't function. You did the best you could and he isn't put forth an effort and you can't change that. Get help for yourself. That is the best advice I can give you. You can't change one thing about your son, but you can make your own life better and your response to his bad behavioral can become calmer, more logical, and more realistic. There are ways to cope while a loved one is self-destructing. You have a choice, like all of us. You can decide to get sick and go crazy over your son or you can decide to get healthy, live a good life, know you did your best and be there for your son if he decides he wants to come around. Our difficult children tend to suck all the air out of our world so that we make no room for our healthier adult/young children, our spouses, our SOs, our friends and our own selves. That's not fair to them or to us, in my opinion. I hope you chose to do all you can to learn how to take care of yourself. I think it would be a good idea to start with a private therapist. Hugs. [/QUOTE]

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