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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 460044" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm a grandmother myself and I think too many fine younger people are too worried about hurting their paernt's feelings. There is no excuse for grandparents to try to parent their grandchildren or interfer. Although it is a common problem, and sometimes I need to bite my tongue, I let my son and his wife parent my grandson without making any comments about it. From my point of view, if grandparents insist on trumping their adult child's parenting methods, maybe they should not be invited over. My feeling is that the child is more important than the adult; much younger and more helpless...and if a routine is going to be destroyed every summer, in my opinion the grandparents need to learn that it's not acceptable. Sure, they'll be angry, but they may just learn something too. I'm 58 and my 30 something kids seem young to me. But I had kids in my 30's and that's when most people are raising their children. Grandparents should enjoy their grandchildren, not interfer with their children's raising of those kids.</p><p></p><p>I reommend not being so gentle toward parents. I'm sure your son will bounce back eventually, but he obviously can not handle the k ind of drama that happens when grandparents stay with you. Maybe they can stay at a motel next time so that the contact is more limited? JMO, as an older one myself <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 460044, member: 1550"] I'm a grandmother myself and I think too many fine younger people are too worried about hurting their paernt's feelings. There is no excuse for grandparents to try to parent their grandchildren or interfer. Although it is a common problem, and sometimes I need to bite my tongue, I let my son and his wife parent my grandson without making any comments about it. From my point of view, if grandparents insist on trumping their adult child's parenting methods, maybe they should not be invited over. My feeling is that the child is more important than the adult; much younger and more helpless...and if a routine is going to be destroyed every summer, in my opinion the grandparents need to learn that it's not acceptable. Sure, they'll be angry, but they may just learn something too. I'm 58 and my 30 something kids seem young to me. But I had kids in my 30's and that's when most people are raising their children. Grandparents should enjoy their grandchildren, not interfer with their children's raising of those kids. I reommend not being so gentle toward parents. I'm sure your son will bounce back eventually, but he obviously can not handle the k ind of drama that happens when grandparents stay with you. Maybe they can stay at a motel next time so that the contact is more limited? JMO, as an older one myself :) [/QUOTE]
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