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40 year old brother in law refuses to work
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 615861" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there and welcome to the board, but I don't have good news for you.</p><p></p><p>Your brother-in-law is forty. He isn't going to change and if I were you I wouldn't waste time trying to get him to do so nor wo9uld I EVER consider taking him in. That's baloney. He's beyond an adult...he is middle age and if he has nowhere to live, it's his own fault. I personally can't imagine why you'd house this slacker. Why on earth would you help him BE a slacker. I know you mean well, but it won't encourage him to get a job if he has a warm house, food, and a bed all for nothing.</p><p></p><p>As for his elderly parents, this is a sad scenario we often see in those who don't understand codependency, detachment, and who have the mistaken feeling that they have to financially catch, hold onto and support their adult children even at their own expense. I agree that his parents should be enjoying their retirement years and should have pulled the plug on this person long ago. My guess is he is in some sort of recovery or has some mental illness or both so they feel sorry for him, but even those reasons.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 615861, member: 1550"] Hi there and welcome to the board, but I don't have good news for you. Your brother-in-law is forty. He isn't going to change and if I were you I wouldn't waste time trying to get him to do so nor wo9uld I EVER consider taking him in. That's baloney. He's beyond an adult...he is middle age and if he has nowhere to live, it's his own fault. I personally can't imagine why you'd house this slacker. Why on earth would you help him BE a slacker. I know you mean well, but it won't encourage him to get a job if he has a warm house, food, and a bed all for nothing. As for his elderly parents, this is a sad scenario we often see in those who don't understand codependency, detachment, and who have the mistaken feeling that they have to financially catch, hold onto and support their adult children even at their own expense. I agree that his parents should be enjoying their retirement years and should have pulled the plug on this person long ago. My guess is he is in some sort of recovery or has some mental illness or both so they feel sorry for him, but even those reasons. [/QUOTE]
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