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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 766596" data-attributes="member: 4152">Totally agree with Copa above. It's a hard pill to swallow that your adult child is stealing and we know it will somehow &quot;hurt&quot; them if they discover the locks were changed, but then again, you absolutely have the right to protect yourself. An example of us parents being more worried about their feelings than our own feelings and needs. But, perhaps the son should start to&nbsp; understand the concept of &quot;logical consequences&quot;?&nbsp;&nbsp; Is he stealing valuable things? Is he a drug user/abuser?&nbsp; I would lean toward changing the locks as you have proposed.&nbsp;Another variation of this might be to, like Copa said, install cameras in several areas. You can monitor it from your phone. But then, you would have to decide what to do if you discover he is inside your home and worse, taking things. I would add to that, to put items of particular value locked in your bedroom with a camera in the bedroom and an additional lock on the bedroom door.&nbsp; Make your bedroom (or one room in the house) extremely secure with a camera and many locks.&nbsp; I would not tell your son you did that, but might consider telling him you got cameras installed in the house and if he was discovered to be in the house you will consider calling the police and should anything be missing, you will definitely call the police.&nbsp; I would consider getting a safe deposit box ... away from your home...for anything of extreme value.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 766596, member: 4152"] Totally agree with Copa above. It's a hard pill to swallow that your adult child is stealing and we know it will somehow "hurt" them if they discover the locks were changed, but then again, you absolutely have the right to protect yourself. An example of us parents being more worried about their feelings than our own feelings and needs. But, perhaps the son should start to understand the concept of "logical consequences"? Is he stealing valuable things? Is he a drug user/abuser? I would lean toward changing the locks as you have proposed. Another variation of this might be to, like Copa said, install cameras in several areas. You can monitor it from your phone. But then, you would have to decide what to do if you discover he is inside your home and worse, taking things. I would add to that, to put items of particular value locked in your bedroom with a camera in the bedroom and an additional lock on the bedroom door. Make your bedroom (or one room in the house) extremely secure with a camera and many locks. I would not tell your son you did that, but might consider telling him you got cameras installed in the house and if he was discovered to be in the house you will consider calling the police and should anything be missing, you will definitely call the police. I would consider getting a safe deposit box ... away from your home...for anything of extreme value. [/QUOTE]

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