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<blockquote data-quote="LoonyAlana" data-source="post: 617124" data-attributes="member: 17555"><p>He controls and bosses around his 'friends'. He does have some friends, but does not have regular play dates or anything like that, and there are a large number of kids at daycare (for example) that are either afraid of him or don't like him because he is so controlling and bossy. He feels his friends 'belong' to him- "My Mario" was how he referred to a 'friend' with his daycare teacher. "Where is my Mario?" Mario actually stopped attending daycare for a while because of my son, because he wanted to control where he sat for lunch, where he napped, what he played, who could play with him. He is very possessive. In regard to animals, we do have some. We have a Labrador retriever that is the size of a small horse, and while our son can play rough unless we intervene, he hasn't tortured the animal. We have rabbits, too, and are very careful to supervise any interaction between him and the rabbits. It's not like he's trying to hurt them, but he doesn't realize how strong he is compared to the fragile animals. But he does love the animals, and gives regular hugs and pets to them and helps to feed them.</p><p></p><p>He's 'OK' with fire- we've gone camping a few times and/or had fires in our pit in the backyard, but he's not overexcited by them. He even dislikes smores and roasted marshmallows. So he'll be interested when we have one, but doesn't seek out for us to make a fire. </p><p></p><p>The potty issue. *Sigh* It's been an uphill battle. Very early one (a little before 2) he was very interested in using the potty. So we got him a potty chair, and encouraged him to try it out. He, at first, liked sitting on it but never 'did his business' on it. He reached a point, around 4 years old or so, where he could use the potty (mainly #1) and used pull-ups, but still chose most often NOT to use it even if he knew he needed to pee. At the same time, that was around the time he swore off clothes while at home, and he could sleep (not even wearing a pull-up) through the night without any accidents or anything. Then in July he started school (our first attempt was at a 'year-round' public charter school) - at that point he <em>knew</em> how to pee and poop in the potty but most often chose not to do it. He'd ask for us to put on a pull-up just so he could then soil it. But once surrounded by all the other kids that had no issue using the potty, essentially during that one school day, he got it. He peed, he pooped, all in the potty, and we were happy and bought all sorts of new underwear and stopped buying pull ups. But then... maybe about 2-ish months ago, he got strep butt and it was quite painful for him to poop and be wiped, but even once it cleared up, he's still naked around the house and can still pee just fine and dandy in the potty, but now cannot seem to poop in the potty anymore. He'll be standing in the living room, totally in the buff, and suddenly clap his hand over his bottom (poop is already out between his cheeks and his hand is just keeping it from falling onto the floor) and he'll run to the bathroom for us to clean up him. Or, he'll clap his hand on his bottom, lie and say, "I'm not poopy" and refuse to go to the bathroom for us to clean him up. He apparently just refuses to go poo during the day (at school and daycare) and saves it all for us. And he'll only allow the smallest of amounts to come out at any time (rather than sit and try to get as much out as possible) so that we'll have to 'clean him up' easily 6-8 times PER DAY. </p><p></p><p>My oldest son also had 'issues' where he wet his bed, nearly every single night until about 2 months ago. He's 14, and we had tried medication, reward system, shaming system, waking him up (or trying to) each hour of the night... although with him I did know that particular problem likely has some sort of psychological basis. He had it nearly solved with only 1-2 accidents per month until he went with his father for the first time over the summer. I had divorced his father the year before, but that summer was the first time he actually used his 'visitation rights' to take him all summer long (I had also just gotten remarried, and my ex was angry about that.) But I digress... basically, just trying to show the picture that both boys had (or still have) potty 'issues'.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LoonyAlana, post: 617124, member: 17555"] He controls and bosses around his 'friends'. He does have some friends, but does not have regular play dates or anything like that, and there are a large number of kids at daycare (for example) that are either afraid of him or don't like him because he is so controlling and bossy. He feels his friends 'belong' to him- "My Mario" was how he referred to a 'friend' with his daycare teacher. "Where is my Mario?" Mario actually stopped attending daycare for a while because of my son, because he wanted to control where he sat for lunch, where he napped, what he played, who could play with him. He is very possessive. In regard to animals, we do have some. We have a Labrador retriever that is the size of a small horse, and while our son can play rough unless we intervene, he hasn't tortured the animal. We have rabbits, too, and are very careful to supervise any interaction between him and the rabbits. It's not like he's trying to hurt them, but he doesn't realize how strong he is compared to the fragile animals. But he does love the animals, and gives regular hugs and pets to them and helps to feed them. He's 'OK' with fire- we've gone camping a few times and/or had fires in our pit in the backyard, but he's not overexcited by them. He even dislikes smores and roasted marshmallows. So he'll be interested when we have one, but doesn't seek out for us to make a fire. The potty issue. *Sigh* It's been an uphill battle. Very early one (a little before 2) he was very interested in using the potty. So we got him a potty chair, and encouraged him to try it out. He, at first, liked sitting on it but never 'did his business' on it. He reached a point, around 4 years old or so, where he could use the potty (mainly #1) and used pull-ups, but still chose most often NOT to use it even if he knew he needed to pee. At the same time, that was around the time he swore off clothes while at home, and he could sleep (not even wearing a pull-up) through the night without any accidents or anything. Then in July he started school (our first attempt was at a 'year-round' public charter school) - at that point he [I]knew[/I] how to pee and poop in the potty but most often chose not to do it. He'd ask for us to put on a pull-up just so he could then soil it. But once surrounded by all the other kids that had no issue using the potty, essentially during that one school day, he got it. He peed, he pooped, all in the potty, and we were happy and bought all sorts of new underwear and stopped buying pull ups. But then... maybe about 2-ish months ago, he got strep butt and it was quite painful for him to poop and be wiped, but even once it cleared up, he's still naked around the house and can still pee just fine and dandy in the potty, but now cannot seem to poop in the potty anymore. He'll be standing in the living room, totally in the buff, and suddenly clap his hand over his bottom (poop is already out between his cheeks and his hand is just keeping it from falling onto the floor) and he'll run to the bathroom for us to clean up him. Or, he'll clap his hand on his bottom, lie and say, "I'm not poopy" and refuse to go to the bathroom for us to clean him up. He apparently just refuses to go poo during the day (at school and daycare) and saves it all for us. And he'll only allow the smallest of amounts to come out at any time (rather than sit and try to get as much out as possible) so that we'll have to 'clean him up' easily 6-8 times PER DAY. My oldest son also had 'issues' where he wet his bed, nearly every single night until about 2 months ago. He's 14, and we had tried medication, reward system, shaming system, waking him up (or trying to) each hour of the night... although with him I did know that particular problem likely has some sort of psychological basis. He had it nearly solved with only 1-2 accidents per month until he went with his father for the first time over the summer. I had divorced his father the year before, but that summer was the first time he actually used his 'visitation rights' to take him all summer long (I had also just gotten remarried, and my ex was angry about that.) But I digress... basically, just trying to show the picture that both boys had (or still have) potty 'issues'. [/QUOTE]
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