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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 647470" data-attributes="member: 13542">Yeah, I believe we do cycle through those stages of grief. It is a process and it really takes time. What really helped me was to get as much support as possible through it, therapy, 12 step groups, parent groups, whatever works for you. For awhile I was showing up at some kind of supportive atmosphere daily. I was distraught and wanted my life back so I decided whatever this was going to take, I was going to do.I went around those cycles for maybe 2 years and then began to move out of it, as the article states. It wasn't rosy, but it was better. And, like you said, you stay in acceptance longer each time. I noticed that too. And, I think it's very important to acknowledge those times you are feeling good. We get so focused on what is not working, we don't focus too much on what is working..........when those times show up, really celebrate them. As I began to do that, really notice the changes, the changes began expanding. What you focus on expands, at least in my belief system, so focus on what is working when it is. It was like an inch by inch process, but it really does move. It DOES get better, MUCH better, just hang in there Carri, get as much support as you can, focus on what is working, be VERY kind to yourself through all the changes, accepting each as it shows up.......acknowledge your growth and healing..........and keep posting, it helps. We all go through a similar process and if you continue with the commitment to accept what you can't change, you will get to the other side of this. And you'll rediscover peace and joy........really, you will.&nbsp; This part WILL end.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 647470, member: 13542"] Yeah, I believe we do cycle through those stages of grief. It is a process and it really takes time. What really helped me was to get as much support as possible through it, therapy, 12 step groups, parent groups, whatever works for you. For awhile I was showing up at some kind of supportive atmosphere daily. I was distraught and wanted my life back so I decided whatever this was going to take, I was going to do. I went around those cycles for maybe 2 years and then began to move out of it, as the article states. It wasn't rosy, but it was better. And, like you said, you stay in acceptance longer each time. I noticed that too. And, I think it's very important to acknowledge those times you are feeling good. We get so focused on what is not working, we don't focus too much on what is working..........when those times show up, really celebrate them. As I began to do that, really notice the changes, the changes began expanding. What you focus on expands, at least in my belief system, so focus on what is working when it is. It was like an inch by inch process, but it really does move. It DOES get better, MUCH better, just hang in there Carri, get as much support as you can, focus on what is working, be VERY kind to yourself through all the changes, accepting each as it shows up.......acknowledge your growth and healing..........and keep posting, it helps. We all go through a similar process and if you continue with the commitment to accept what you can't change, you will get to the other side of this. And you'll rediscover peace and joy........really, you will. This part [I]WILL [/I]end. [/QUOTE]

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