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8 year old daughter kissing her girlfriend?????
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 483244" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Seems this is my day for true confessions: (I did it on another thread about a moldy cake pan I found...sigh)</p><p></p><p>When I was very young a girl friend told me about sex. I was shocked. We were still in pretend, play with dolls, make stores to sell things, have post offices, etc. stages of life. We then went on to play we were married. we never did anything actually similating making babies....dont think I really knew how it worked fully at that time, but we did kiss and touch. We were not interested in eachother in any way. It was pure curiousity and we both grew up fine. Muiti-I doubt this is about who she is with or gender, I suspect it is the act at her age and the secrecy. I may be wrong, but I am not hearing that. </p><p></p><p>I think what I was missing at that age was knowing about boundaries and total freedom to ask my questions too. We snuck because those topics were not openly discussed (an appropriate time and place is needed of course, but there should be that) and back in my generation, that wasn't so common. </p><p></p><p>I agree to be careful about shaming words, not that you would intentionally do that. What do you think about putting the focus on asking if she is curious about any of it? Remind her that you are a good source of information and it is just not appropriate to do x, y, z with people at her age. All the safety boundary talk you ahve probably already done probably wouldn't have applied to this situation in her mind. It will need a new slant. </p><p></p><p>I grew up Catholic and actually confessed what my friend and I did. i felt it was a sin. (not really interested to hear if anyone here thinks it was, ok?) That priest made me feel like dirt. He said God would not forgive me and he would not give me any way to make up for it until I told my mom and dad. Now, his intentions were probably just to do that...make sure my parents could guide me, but how he did it...wow. </p><p></p><p>I think it is a blessing you found out. She will have your guidance.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 483244, member: 12886"] Seems this is my day for true confessions: (I did it on another thread about a moldy cake pan I found...sigh) When I was very young a girl friend told me about sex. I was shocked. We were still in pretend, play with dolls, make stores to sell things, have post offices, etc. stages of life. We then went on to play we were married. we never did anything actually similating making babies....dont think I really knew how it worked fully at that time, but we did kiss and touch. We were not interested in eachother in any way. It was pure curiousity and we both grew up fine. Muiti-I doubt this is about who she is with or gender, I suspect it is the act at her age and the secrecy. I may be wrong, but I am not hearing that. I think what I was missing at that age was knowing about boundaries and total freedom to ask my questions too. We snuck because those topics were not openly discussed (an appropriate time and place is needed of course, but there should be that) and back in my generation, that wasn't so common. I agree to be careful about shaming words, not that you would intentionally do that. What do you think about putting the focus on asking if she is curious about any of it? Remind her that you are a good source of information and it is just not appropriate to do x, y, z with people at her age. All the safety boundary talk you ahve probably already done probably wouldn't have applied to this situation in her mind. It will need a new slant. I grew up Catholic and actually confessed what my friend and I did. i felt it was a sin. (not really interested to hear if anyone here thinks it was, ok?) That priest made me feel like dirt. He said God would not forgive me and he would not give me any way to make up for it until I told my mom and dad. Now, his intentions were probably just to do that...make sure my parents could guide me, but how he did it...wow. I think it is a blessing you found out. She will have your guidance. [/QUOTE]
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