Melz, thanks for the recommendation on the The Boy Crisis. I just went a bought it. I can't understand why my ex son-in-law won't even call the kids. He lives in Chicago, is parenting four other children of his new wife's, but can't be bothered to even call. It hurts my heart so much. It would take so little to pick up the phone. I'm on friendly terms with him, the kids live with me and we've always gotten along. Even through my daughter's divorce from him, I never said a negative word to him.