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911.. what to do.. she is asking to come home..
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 251010" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Rhonda</p><p> </p><p>Our kids can sure yank the rug out from under us can't they??</p><p> </p><p>Ok. Deep soothing breaths. Until you have your emotions under better control, don't commit to anything. You want to be able to think before you agree to anything. And you need to know as many facts as possible.</p><p> </p><p>Last thing YOU need is to be put in jail for harboring a fugitive.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p><p> </p><p>Up til now, she's been honest. Ask her the facts. Let her know you want to help, but that you have to know all of what's going on before you <strong>can </strong>help. Because otherwise......you have no way of knowing how you can help her the best possible way.</p><p> </p><p>And that's the utter truth.</p><p> </p><p>I know you want to grab hold of her and pull her home as fast as you can. I know you do, because I've soooooooo been there done that. And I don't blame you a bit. You love her. This is what you've anxiously been waiting for so very long to hear.</p><p> </p><p>There is nothing wrong with bringing her home......IF you have all the facts and don't walk into the decision blind. I won't tell you not to. Only you can make that decision because you're the one who has to live with it.</p><p> </p><p>I couldn't say no to K when she asked. In the end, I got burned bad. (doesn't matter that it was a misunderstanding, I still got burned major) But I don't regret bringing her here or helping her for one single moment. Because I did what I had to do because that is the person I am. If I had turned my back on her at that moment when she needed me most.......I could never have lived with myself. And I knew it.</p><p> </p><p>I'm facing the same circumstances with her 9 yrs later. I'm still collecting facts this time around. I'm holding back because I did get burned so bad last time. But I know if it once again comes down to utter desperation under the right circumstances....I'll probably do it again. I'd be lying to myself if I said I wouldn't.</p><p> </p><p>I'd say at the very least, you've got to figure out what the truth is about this jumping bail thing is before you can bring her home. Maybe if you can get enough facts out of her, you can head to a lawyer and see what your options are and how risky it would be to bring her home at this point with that hanging over her head.</p><p> </p><p>I say that because it might not be as bad as she perceives it to be. So you need to know for certain what is going on with the charges against her.</p><p> </p><p>Don't say no. But don't commit just yet. Leave that door wide open and get all the info you can before you decide anything. If it weren't for those darn charges, I'd tell you to go for it.</p><p> </p><p>((((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 251010, member: 84"] Rhonda Our kids can sure yank the rug out from under us can't they?? Ok. Deep soothing breaths. Until you have your emotions under better control, don't commit to anything. You want to be able to think before you agree to anything. And you need to know as many facts as possible. Last thing YOU need is to be put in jail for harboring a fugitive.:knockedout: Up til now, she's been honest. Ask her the facts. Let her know you want to help, but that you have to know all of what's going on before you [B]can [/B]help. Because otherwise......you have no way of knowing how you can help her the best possible way. And that's the utter truth. I know you want to grab hold of her and pull her home as fast as you can. I know you do, because I've soooooooo been there done that. And I don't blame you a bit. You love her. This is what you've anxiously been waiting for so very long to hear. There is nothing wrong with bringing her home......IF you have all the facts and don't walk into the decision blind. I won't tell you not to. Only you can make that decision because you're the one who has to live with it. I couldn't say no to K when she asked. In the end, I got burned bad. (doesn't matter that it was a misunderstanding, I still got burned major) But I don't regret bringing her here or helping her for one single moment. Because I did what I had to do because that is the person I am. If I had turned my back on her at that moment when she needed me most.......I could never have lived with myself. And I knew it. I'm facing the same circumstances with her 9 yrs later. I'm still collecting facts this time around. I'm holding back because I did get burned so bad last time. But I know if it once again comes down to utter desperation under the right circumstances....I'll probably do it again. I'd be lying to myself if I said I wouldn't. I'd say at the very least, you've got to figure out what the truth is about this jumping bail thing is before you can bring her home. Maybe if you can get enough facts out of her, you can head to a lawyer and see what your options are and how risky it would be to bring her home at this point with that hanging over her head. I say that because it might not be as bad as she perceives it to be. So you need to know for certain what is going on with the charges against her. Don't say no. But don't commit just yet. Leave that door wide open and get all the info you can before you decide anything. If it weren't for those darn charges, I'd tell you to go for it. ((((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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