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<blockquote data-quote="Rhonda" data-source="post: 251023" data-attributes="member: 6732"><p>OK .. here goes.. Thanks tons again.. after bawling my eyes out and sending SOS out to you great people.. I called my Mom and Dad.. You who have read my other posts and know what is going on will understand this. So, not repeating myself too much, my difficult child stole from her GP's and her GrandFather is not so forgiving. I told my Dad that she is asking to come home.. After a lengthy conversation with him (since I am in CA and they are all in MS). I called my difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>I am so proud.. I did "mostly" what you suggested. I did cry a little but tried to cover it with distraction.. hmmm. hope it worked. I told her how very much I loved her and how much her GP's love her but that none of us were going to put ourselves out there for her unless she wanted a completely different life than what she is living. I asked her what she wanted and she said that she wants to change everything but she could not really talk, there were other people that could hear her. She seemed to want a way to runaway (that was my perception) again. On the other hand I could tell that she has actually put some thought into what to do to turn things around. I am just not sure she is committed to doing them.</p><p> </p><p>She told me that she would think about everything and call me tomorrow. We will see. She may not even call after the things I said. I wish I had read the post from Nomad before talking to her. I would have said a lot less. I made some recommendations for her and I really wish I had not. She was the one who should have come up the ways to help herself instead of me "plateing them up" for her. I did back up some and tell her that it is all her choice and that even if I decide that I can't help her, I will be beside her while she goes through everything. I told her that, while I am sometimes embarassed by her behavior that I am still proud to be her Mother and that my head will be held high when I stand beside her. I told her how angry and frustrated her actions make me but my love for her is always so much more than those feelings.</p><p> </p><p>She is wanted for shop-lifting and skipping bail. And I told her there was no point in crossing state lines until this is cleared up. But I don't think she listened very well. We will see. </p><p> </p><p>She completely denied doing any drugs or alcohol. She said she had quit. When I told her that I understood her lieing about this, that that is what all drug addicts do, she was of course outraged and asked me to please believe in her. So I told her I did. And she said thank you. I do not though. I don't believe her at all. I just did not know what to say when she asked me to trust her the third time. And I do trust her as much as I can, that is just a notch above a buried bone.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks again.. I will post tomorrow .. Wish I knew how to point to my past posts so that if you are interested you could read the history.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rhonda, post: 251023, member: 6732"] OK .. here goes.. Thanks tons again.. after bawling my eyes out and sending SOS out to you great people.. I called my Mom and Dad.. You who have read my other posts and know what is going on will understand this. So, not repeating myself too much, my difficult child stole from her GP's and her GrandFather is not so forgiving. I told my Dad that she is asking to come home.. After a lengthy conversation with him (since I am in CA and they are all in MS). I called my difficult child. I am so proud.. I did "mostly" what you suggested. I did cry a little but tried to cover it with distraction.. hmmm. hope it worked. I told her how very much I loved her and how much her GP's love her but that none of us were going to put ourselves out there for her unless she wanted a completely different life than what she is living. I asked her what she wanted and she said that she wants to change everything but she could not really talk, there were other people that could hear her. She seemed to want a way to runaway (that was my perception) again. On the other hand I could tell that she has actually put some thought into what to do to turn things around. I am just not sure she is committed to doing them. She told me that she would think about everything and call me tomorrow. We will see. She may not even call after the things I said. I wish I had read the post from Nomad before talking to her. I would have said a lot less. I made some recommendations for her and I really wish I had not. She was the one who should have come up the ways to help herself instead of me "plateing them up" for her. I did back up some and tell her that it is all her choice and that even if I decide that I can't help her, I will be beside her while she goes through everything. I told her that, while I am sometimes embarassed by her behavior that I am still proud to be her Mother and that my head will be held high when I stand beside her. I told her how angry and frustrated her actions make me but my love for her is always so much more than those feelings. She is wanted for shop-lifting and skipping bail. And I told her there was no point in crossing state lines until this is cleared up. But I don't think she listened very well. We will see. She completely denied doing any drugs or alcohol. She said she had quit. When I told her that I understood her lieing about this, that that is what all drug addicts do, she was of course outraged and asked me to please believe in her. So I told her I did. And she said thank you. I do not though. I don't believe her at all. I just did not know what to say when she asked me to trust her the third time. And I do trust her as much as I can, that is just a notch above a buried bone. Thanks again.. I will post tomorrow .. Wish I knew how to point to my past posts so that if you are interested you could read the history. [/QUOTE]
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