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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 613809" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>MWM: You are using Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) in the way that as not dsupported by science community. Those unofficial Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) check lists are not supported by for example AACAP and are mainly used by unqualified 'attachment therapist' who have caused many casualties and gruesome child abuse by their therapy. Aimless's child is clearly very troubled, has been from birth, which indicates something else than Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is acquired and only acquired by extremely insufficient care and Aimless told she and her husband has taken good care of this child during his early years and we have no reason to suspect that. If there was, there would be a lot of reason to look hard to Aimless attitudes toward this child, because here for example are treatment recommendations for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids:</p><p></p><p></p><p>Good news is that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) tends to be treatable. It is little researched, but research that has been made tells that majority of kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) heal quite quickly after placement to stable home (these studies were made with Romanian orphans adopted to UK.)</p><p></p><p>However Aimless child's problems really seem to be somewhere else than in her parenting. While I agree with Malika that Aimless sounds very frustrated, tired and bit cynical in the way she talks about her son (which I can very well understand) I sincerely doubt that attachment is the biggest problem here. Of course parental displeasure does affect but this child sounds like having some severe neurological issues not related the lack of bond parents have been able to create to him. Unfortunately brain damage as a reason isn't very hopeful and in the end it may end up to be about behaviour management. MRI doesn't often show that much about organic brain damage, but try to drive that through anyway. It may give you some answers. </p><p></p><p>Do you have a good therapist with whom you could go back to very basic and start to build a system to manage his behaviour? It seems that you have not yet found the right motivational tools to influence him and that makes your, and his, life very difficult.</p><p></p><p>EDIT: MWM, other thing, it would be good if you wouldn't make such straightforward assumptions of other people's kids you have not even met. For example J is a total cutie and I'm sure lovely child in many ways. That doesn't make him easy child or trouble free. While Malika doesn't choose to elaborate every difficult behaviour J does have and while she chooses to mention the positives often (and concentrate to those), it doesn't meant J isn't at risk child or that Malika doesn't know anything about anything. You also recently assumed my oldest is basically a talented easy child child who used to have little dappling with gambling before and has some slight mental health issues and used that to dismiss me. You are free to dismiss me and my opinions, but it doesn't mean you know a koi about my kid and his issues.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 613809, member: 14557"] MWM: You are using Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) in the way that as not dsupported by science community. Those unofficial Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) check lists are not supported by for example AACAP and are mainly used by unqualified 'attachment therapist' who have caused many casualties and gruesome child abuse by their therapy. Aimless's child is clearly very troubled, has been from birth, which indicates something else than Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is acquired and only acquired by extremely insufficient care and Aimless told she and her husband has taken good care of this child during his early years and we have no reason to suspect that. If there was, there would be a lot of reason to look hard to Aimless attitudes toward this child, because here for example are treatment recommendations for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids: Good news is that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) tends to be treatable. It is little researched, but research that has been made tells that majority of kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) heal quite quickly after placement to stable home (these studies were made with Romanian orphans adopted to UK.) However Aimless child's problems really seem to be somewhere else than in her parenting. While I agree with Malika that Aimless sounds very frustrated, tired and bit cynical in the way she talks about her son (which I can very well understand) I sincerely doubt that attachment is the biggest problem here. Of course parental displeasure does affect but this child sounds like having some severe neurological issues not related the lack of bond parents have been able to create to him. Unfortunately brain damage as a reason isn't very hopeful and in the end it may end up to be about behaviour management. MRI doesn't often show that much about organic brain damage, but try to drive that through anyway. It may give you some answers. Do you have a good therapist with whom you could go back to very basic and start to build a system to manage his behaviour? It seems that you have not yet found the right motivational tools to influence him and that makes your, and his, life very difficult. EDIT: MWM, other thing, it would be good if you wouldn't make such straightforward assumptions of other people's kids you have not even met. For example J is a total cutie and I'm sure lovely child in many ways. That doesn't make him easy child or trouble free. While Malika doesn't choose to elaborate every difficult behaviour J does have and while she chooses to mention the positives often (and concentrate to those), it doesn't meant J isn't at risk child or that Malika doesn't know anything about anything. You also recently assumed my oldest is basically a talented easy child child who used to have little dappling with gambling before and has some slight mental health issues and used that to dismiss me. You are free to dismiss me and my opinions, but it doesn't mean you know a koi about my kid and his issues. [/QUOTE]
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