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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 625744" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>We'll, the story continues. I got a call at 9:30 that she was picked up by the local police for trespassing and "under the influence." The police said to come to the station to get the 3 cats and her car.....................SO and I just returned from bringing her car back here and he is now at the local shelter bringing the cats. She may have had other plans for those cats, but we made that choice for the cats. I know the owners of the shelter and they are wonderful folks who never euthanize the animals, they are very, very well cared for. In fact, SO and I have both volunteered there.</p><p></p><p>I can't help wondering if this was her plan all along, to go back to that place where there is no stress. The police said she was crying and laughing and dancing. Gee.</p><p></p><p>In truth, for me, this is the best outcome. Like many of us here, when our difficult child's are contained in a fairly safe environment, it works out better for us.</p><p></p><p>As was the case 3 days ago, I have no emotional response to any of this, I just went and got her car, brought it home, covered it with a tarp, talked to the cops, dealt with a part of it that I was willing to do. That has oddly become much easier now and I can quickly determine what I am willing to do without resentment. </p><p></p><p>With new charges I believe she will have to serve her full old sentence and then go to court to determine what these new charges will be. She will now likely be in jail for quite some time, which truthfully, is the best place for her now. She will lose all of the things she has been desperately trying to hold on to, three storage units, 3 cats and the old life. Hopefully, when she gets out eventually, she will have realized what a relief that is.</p><p></p><p>I am pretty good. Again, it feels as if it all is going exactly as it should. We are all where we are supposed to be. It's an odd thing, but I'm really glad the last 6 days happened. SO, my granddaughter and I slid into home base together, all with the same sense of completion and the knowledge that for me, the unhealthy dynamic with my daughter is finished. My commitment to be okay regardless of what anyone else is doing and maintaining my inner peace along the way has been realized under ghastly circumstances. </p><p></p><p>It's true, you can even be okay in a war zone.</p><p></p><p>Tomorrow is my granddaughter's senior prom. She looks gorgeous in her dress and her excitement is catching. </p><p></p><p>Life has so many ups and downs and it's a good thing to remain as close to the center as possible............... where peace is found.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 625744, member: 13542"] We'll, the story continues. I got a call at 9:30 that she was picked up by the local police for trespassing and "under the influence." The police said to come to the station to get the 3 cats and her car.....................SO and I just returned from bringing her car back here and he is now at the local shelter bringing the cats. She may have had other plans for those cats, but we made that choice for the cats. I know the owners of the shelter and they are wonderful folks who never euthanize the animals, they are very, very well cared for. In fact, SO and I have both volunteered there. I can't help wondering if this was her plan all along, to go back to that place where there is no stress. The police said she was crying and laughing and dancing. Gee. In truth, for me, this is the best outcome. Like many of us here, when our difficult child's are contained in a fairly safe environment, it works out better for us. As was the case 3 days ago, I have no emotional response to any of this, I just went and got her car, brought it home, covered it with a tarp, talked to the cops, dealt with a part of it that I was willing to do. That has oddly become much easier now and I can quickly determine what I am willing to do without resentment. With new charges I believe she will have to serve her full old sentence and then go to court to determine what these new charges will be. She will now likely be in jail for quite some time, which truthfully, is the best place for her now. She will lose all of the things she has been desperately trying to hold on to, three storage units, 3 cats and the old life. Hopefully, when she gets out eventually, she will have realized what a relief that is. I am pretty good. Again, it feels as if it all is going exactly as it should. We are all where we are supposed to be. It's an odd thing, but I'm really glad the last 6 days happened. SO, my granddaughter and I slid into home base together, all with the same sense of completion and the knowledge that for me, the unhealthy dynamic with my daughter is finished. My commitment to be okay regardless of what anyone else is doing and maintaining my inner peace along the way has been realized under ghastly circumstances. It's true, you can even be okay in a war zone. Tomorrow is my granddaughter's senior prom. She looks gorgeous in her dress and her excitement is catching. Life has so many ups and downs and it's a good thing to remain as close to the center as possible............... where peace is found. [/QUOTE]
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