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<blockquote data-quote="Betty Boop Anna" data-source="post: 710500" data-attributes="member: 21622"><p>I actually I felt like yesterday was very productive and I felt good. I do wish that she would communicate back a little bit more but her body language was open and she wasn't being short with me. It was nice to have a conversation even though most of it was one-sided she did agree with me that it would be a good idea for the three-year-old that we make some sort of schedule for him. She was very receptive to that and agreed that he could stay weekends with us and some of the time while I'm on spring break so that made me feel good. So I think she sees that there's a little bit of a problem with consistency for him and hopefully she'll start looking out for his best interest and what's best for him. As far as what she wants I think she was pretty honest with me when she responded that she doesn't really know what she wants yet. I did point blank asked her if she thought this was where she wanted to be and if she was going to move all of her stuff out pretty soon or she was going to think about this and slow down. She did consider it and she she said she's not really sure what she wants to do, so i feel this is a step forward in my book.</p><p> As far as her finances are concerned she didn't really answer me either way she didn't oppose, agree or disagree with any of the ideas I had. So I feel like maybe she's a little reserved as to what she wants to do. I think this guy might be taking her money and that might be her reservation because she knows she needs to pay her bills and that we will help make sure she pays them and if she takes over then that might mean he takes over her money and she won't be able to pay her bills I don't know that's just my assumption.</p><p>I expected her to go back over there to the guys last night, she had packed up all her stuff and put it in the car and was getting ready to take the baby and she came back just a couple minutes later un packed everything and then decided to stay here so I don't know if they had a disagreement on the phone or what was up with that. I didn't really ask a lot of questions. Only thing I did is ask if everything was okay and then just let it be.</p><p>Nothing really unusual happened last night I typically get the three-year-old ready for bed and read to him and put him to bed. I asked her permission before, so I can make sure that I'm not stepping over my boundaries and she said yes. This morning not much else changed either in the fact that the baby and my daughter slept and I took care of the three year old and when the baby woke up I gave the baby a bath of course asking her beforehand if it was okay, she was tired and I offered if it would be okay, Id watch the kids and she can sleep and she agreed to that. She is exhausted I can tell so just trying to be gentle. When she woke up, we talked, i asked her if she had any thing to say about our conversation yesterday and she didn't really have anything to say, she just she agrees with everything. I asked her what does that mean? I don't really understand, I said I don't want agree with me, because whatever I say doesn't make it right I want to know how you really feel. She didn't really having a great response, I didn't push the issue. However, I did tell her that as much as I want to try to step back and let her be the mom, that it makes it difficult for me when she sits back and lets me take care of her kids. Basically trying to tell her to get up and take care of her kids, step up and be the mom. </p><p>that's long winded, sorry, but I want you to seer the whole picture. </p><p>I do feel that between all the people talking to her this week, is helping her in a way, at least too slow down a bit, and maybe think a little more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Betty Boop Anna, post: 710500, member: 21622"] I actually I felt like yesterday was very productive and I felt good. I do wish that she would communicate back a little bit more but her body language was open and she wasn't being short with me. It was nice to have a conversation even though most of it was one-sided she did agree with me that it would be a good idea for the three-year-old that we make some sort of schedule for him. She was very receptive to that and agreed that he could stay weekends with us and some of the time while I'm on spring break so that made me feel good. So I think she sees that there's a little bit of a problem with consistency for him and hopefully she'll start looking out for his best interest and what's best for him. As far as what she wants I think she was pretty honest with me when she responded that she doesn't really know what she wants yet. I did point blank asked her if she thought this was where she wanted to be and if she was going to move all of her stuff out pretty soon or she was going to think about this and slow down. She did consider it and she she said she's not really sure what she wants to do, so i feel this is a step forward in my book. As far as her finances are concerned she didn't really answer me either way she didn't oppose, agree or disagree with any of the ideas I had. So I feel like maybe she's a little reserved as to what she wants to do. I think this guy might be taking her money and that might be her reservation because she knows she needs to pay her bills and that we will help make sure she pays them and if she takes over then that might mean he takes over her money and she won't be able to pay her bills I don't know that's just my assumption. I expected her to go back over there to the guys last night, she had packed up all her stuff and put it in the car and was getting ready to take the baby and she came back just a couple minutes later un packed everything and then decided to stay here so I don't know if they had a disagreement on the phone or what was up with that. I didn't really ask a lot of questions. Only thing I did is ask if everything was okay and then just let it be. Nothing really unusual happened last night I typically get the three-year-old ready for bed and read to him and put him to bed. I asked her permission before, so I can make sure that I'm not stepping over my boundaries and she said yes. This morning not much else changed either in the fact that the baby and my daughter slept and I took care of the three year old and when the baby woke up I gave the baby a bath of course asking her beforehand if it was okay, she was tired and I offered if it would be okay, Id watch the kids and she can sleep and she agreed to that. She is exhausted I can tell so just trying to be gentle. When she woke up, we talked, i asked her if she had any thing to say about our conversation yesterday and she didn't really have anything to say, she just she agrees with everything. I asked her what does that mean? I don't really understand, I said I don't want agree with me, because whatever I say doesn't make it right I want to know how you really feel. She didn't really having a great response, I didn't push the issue. However, I did tell her that as much as I want to try to step back and let her be the mom, that it makes it difficult for me when she sits back and lets me take care of her kids. Basically trying to tell her to get up and take care of her kids, step up and be the mom. that's long winded, sorry, but I want you to seer the whole picture. I do feel that between all the people talking to her this week, is helping her in a way, at least too slow down a bit, and maybe think a little more. [/QUOTE]
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