Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
A mixture of mess
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 727352" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Lost </p><p></p><p>Oh my we are so in the same place you and I. It was very very hard for me to wrap my head around a few facts when I stopped enabling my son. </p><p></p><p>You see every time we did not enable and he faced the consequences of his own actions. Things got worse...way worse. I made my self sick with guilt and FOG Fear Obligtion and Guilt. It took me a very long time to realize that getting out of their way and not enabling them does being about a downward spiral. We don’t cause it by any means. They do. We are just not rescuing any more. Nothing changes if nothing changes. If we continue to enable the cycle continues. </p><p></p><p></p><p>First we don’t make anyone feel anything. Our emotions are our own. </p><p></p><p>Second nope he took himself to this place it’s all on him. We didn’t Cause this we can’t Control it nor can we Cure it. Not easy stuff. I know I am in the thick of it with you. </p><p></p><p>You are a loving and caring parent. We at times have to love in harsh ways to give hope and opportunity for growth and recovery to have a chance. </p><p></p><p>Be kind to yourself. You have taken care of him and his messes for a very long time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 727352, member: 21895"] Lost Oh my we are so in the same place you and I. It was very very hard for me to wrap my head around a few facts when I stopped enabling my son. You see every time we did not enable and he faced the consequences of his own actions. Things got worse...way worse. I made my self sick with guilt and FOG Fear Obligtion and Guilt. It took me a very long time to realize that getting out of their way and not enabling them does being about a downward spiral. We don’t cause it by any means. They do. We are just not rescuing any more. Nothing changes if nothing changes. If we continue to enable the cycle continues. First we don’t make anyone feel anything. Our emotions are our own. Second nope he took himself to this place it’s all on him. We didn’t Cause this we can’t Control it nor can we Cure it. Not easy stuff. I know I am in the thick of it with you. You are a loving and caring parent. We at times have to love in harsh ways to give hope and opportunity for growth and recovery to have a chance. Be kind to yourself. You have taken care of him and his messes for a very long time. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
A mixture of mess
Top