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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 750173" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Chasejazz,</p><p></p><p>Welcome!!</p><p></p><p></p><p>There is no telling what she wants from you unless she actually tells you what she wants. If she is not communicating with you then she wants nothing. The fact that she did this DNA test was her choice and she has to own the consequences good or bad. The fact that she is putting so much weight on this DNA test says more about her own character than anything. If she was secure in herself the results would not matter.</p><p>She is searching for some kind of answer to fill a void she has and she is looking in the wrong places. Only she can fill the void in her life. Each day is a fresh brand new start for each of us and we get to choose how we will live that day. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Your son like my son has his own perception of how their childhood was. Here's the thing, as long as they stay stuck in the past, they will never be able to move forward. It doesn't matter if there is truth to his perception or not. Same thing I said about your daughter. Each day he gets to choose how he will live that day.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sounds like pure jealousy to me.</p><p></p><p></p><p>You have no reason to beat yourself up. He is choosing to live in his car. You simply made a choice for yourself and that was he could no longer live under your roof. There is nothing wrong with you making that choice for yourself. How your son chooses to process that and live with it is on him.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Your life has not been a waste. You have lived, loved, lost and been hurt. That my dear lady makes you a strong survivor.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry for what you are feeling but know that you are more than your children's mother. Now is the time for you to live your life just for you. Do what makes you happy. </p><p></p><p>I have only 1 child, my 37 year old homeless - wondering son. I rarely hear from him anymore. I can tell you that detaching from him was the best thing I could have done for myself.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you are here with us. ((HUGS))</p><p></p><p>[ATTACH=full]1184[/ATTACH]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 750173, member: 18516"] Hi Chasejazz, Welcome!! There is no telling what she wants from you unless she actually tells you what she wants. If she is not communicating with you then she wants nothing. The fact that she did this DNA test was her choice and she has to own the consequences good or bad. The fact that she is putting so much weight on this DNA test says more about her own character than anything. If she was secure in herself the results would not matter. She is searching for some kind of answer to fill a void she has and she is looking in the wrong places. Only she can fill the void in her life. Each day is a fresh brand new start for each of us and we get to choose how we will live that day. Your son like my son has his own perception of how their childhood was. Here's the thing, as long as they stay stuck in the past, they will never be able to move forward. It doesn't matter if there is truth to his perception or not. Same thing I said about your daughter. Each day he gets to choose how he will live that day. Sounds like pure jealousy to me. You have no reason to beat yourself up. He is choosing to live in his car. You simply made a choice for yourself and that was he could no longer live under your roof. There is nothing wrong with you making that choice for yourself. How your son chooses to process that and live with it is on him. Your life has not been a waste. You have lived, loved, lost and been hurt. That my dear lady makes you a strong survivor. I'm sorry for what you are feeling but know that you are more than your children's mother. Now is the time for you to live your life just for you. Do what makes you happy. I have only 1 child, my 37 year old homeless - wondering son. I rarely hear from him anymore. I can tell you that detaching from him was the best thing I could have done for myself. I'm glad you are here with us. ((HUGS)) [ATTACH=full]1184[/ATTACH] [/QUOTE]
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