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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 638857" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is what I would do to deflate the family drama.</p><p></p><p>I want to add, I have learned to hate FB, even under normal circumstances and rarely post and have shrunk my friends only to immediate family and others I trust implicitly.This aunt would not have made my cut. Aunt or not, what is she thinking???</p><p></p><p></p><p>FB is a place where you can type whatever you want. Your son and aunt don't have to go at it on FB. If they do, you can't stop them. But you can either actually stop reading his FB or you can tell a little white lie, which hurts nobody and helps you, and say that you never look at his FB anymore and are no longer going to even acknowledge it so therefore she can not expect you to defend anything he says, even though he is out to lunch. You can suggest she do the same. Nobody has to read his FB. Some people, even family members (and in my family it was ESPECIALLY family members) like to cause drama and mayham and get off on fighting and drama. I was told in therapy, among 1,000 other wise things, that some people grow up with so much chaos that it becomes their norm. This was certainly true of me until I learned why.</p><p></p><p>You aunt DID violate your privacy, and s he is allowed to do it. But you can decide not to read HER FB either and to go low contact with this aunt if she is a troublemaker. There is nothing to be gained, except possible sympathy from her group of friends, by broadcasting family problems on FB. Take the high road hereafter. Try ignoring it and her when she gets this way or when anyone tries to gain sympathy from your pain.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and think about it...people care about THEIR lives and THIER families and after the post disappears, nobody will even care anymore. They have their own lives to live. If they are drama queens they have their own drama making to do and if they are not, they are probably wondering why she posted that also.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 638857, member: 1550"] This is what I would do to deflate the family drama. I want to add, I have learned to hate FB, even under normal circumstances and rarely post and have shrunk my friends only to immediate family and others I trust implicitly.This aunt would not have made my cut. Aunt or not, what is she thinking??? FB is a place where you can type whatever you want. Your son and aunt don't have to go at it on FB. If they do, you can't stop them. But you can either actually stop reading his FB or you can tell a little white lie, which hurts nobody and helps you, and say that you never look at his FB anymore and are no longer going to even acknowledge it so therefore she can not expect you to defend anything he says, even though he is out to lunch. You can suggest she do the same. Nobody has to read his FB. Some people, even family members (and in my family it was ESPECIALLY family members) like to cause drama and mayham and get off on fighting and drama. I was told in therapy, among 1,000 other wise things, that some people grow up with so much chaos that it becomes their norm. This was certainly true of me until I learned why. You aunt DID violate your privacy, and s he is allowed to do it. But you can decide not to read HER FB either and to go low contact with this aunt if she is a troublemaker. There is nothing to be gained, except possible sympathy from her group of friends, by broadcasting family problems on FB. Take the high road hereafter. Try ignoring it and her when she gets this way or when anyone tries to gain sympathy from your pain. Hugs and think about it...people care about THEIR lives and THIER families and after the post disappears, nobody will even care anymore. They have their own lives to live. If they are drama queens they have their own drama making to do and if they are not, they are probably wondering why she posted that also. [/QUOTE]
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