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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 706767" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Welcome back! (But sorry, as always that you have to be here.)</p><p></p><p>My son is 28 and has not demonstrated over time the kind of efficacy that has your son. Yes. He has turned over in jobs, etc. But he did, he he functioned.</p><p></p><p>I see what is happening now as the same thing you have gone through over the last years: except for the elephant in the living room, the "diagnosis" from roommates who are in no position what so ever to make such a claim. I agree with you:<em> thank you but no thank you.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>The current circumstances DO NOT call into question all you have done. It does not make all of a sudden "bad". Personally, from what you describe, you do not deserve to hurl the insult "enabler" onto yourself. You supported your son. Period. Because he is struggling now, does not mean you did wrong.</p><p></p><p>Now. What to do? I will only speak to what I would do. Not what you should</p><p></p><p>First. I would not bring my son home. I believe this could be regressive for him, and for a parent.</p><p></p><p>Second, if he is demonstrating what could be a serious mental illness, he needs expert diagnosis and treatment. At his age he should still be on your insurance or qualify himself for Medicaid or Obamacare. I would urge him to treatment and I would make any assistance I give conditional on his obtaining treatment.</p><p></p><p>I forgot if you mentioned about drug use. Drug use can mimic psychosis, and actually can create a psychosis that for many people will recede in time IF drug use stops. Has he been drug tested?</p><p></p><p>I kicked out my own son when he was 23 and mentally ill. Was it the right thing? I do not know. But sometimes there are only the LEAST BAD alternative and it is difficult to know at the time which that is. Because our kids write their own lives too. We cannot determine the path they choose nor the consequences.</p><p></p><p>So to wrap up, I am glad you are back. I would approach my son this way:</p><p></p><p>1. What treatment are you going to get? These to me seem to be the options.</p><p></p><p>2. Treatment will determine your living choices. There are crisis programs that offer 3 day intervention. There are longer term residential treatment programs. There is voluntary hospitalization (or involuntary). You can call the mental health crisis team to get him evaluated if you feel he is unable right now of taking care of himself.</p><p></p><p>3. Once he gets stabilized he can go to a program like Job Corps (if in USA) where he is housed, fed and trained for free.</p><p></p><p>There are options for him. But you are not it. I am glad you are back.</p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 706767, member: 18958"] Welcome back! (But sorry, as always that you have to be here.) My son is 28 and has not demonstrated over time the kind of efficacy that has your son. Yes. He has turned over in jobs, etc. But he did, he he functioned. I see what is happening now as the same thing you have gone through over the last years: except for the elephant in the living room, the "diagnosis" from roommates who are in no position what so ever to make such a claim. I agree with you:[I] thank you but no thank you. [/I] The current circumstances DO NOT call into question all you have done. It does not make all of a sudden "bad". Personally, from what you describe, you do not deserve to hurl the insult "enabler" onto yourself. You supported your son. Period. Because he is struggling now, does not mean you did wrong. Now. What to do? I will only speak to what I would do. Not what you should First. I would not bring my son home. I believe this could be regressive for him, and for a parent. Second, if he is demonstrating what could be a serious mental illness, he needs expert diagnosis and treatment. At his age he should still be on your insurance or qualify himself for Medicaid or Obamacare. I would urge him to treatment and I would make any assistance I give conditional on his obtaining treatment. I forgot if you mentioned about drug use. Drug use can mimic psychosis, and actually can create a psychosis that for many people will recede in time IF drug use stops. Has he been drug tested? I kicked out my own son when he was 23 and mentally ill. Was it the right thing? I do not know. But sometimes there are only the LEAST BAD alternative and it is difficult to know at the time which that is. Because our kids write their own lives too. We cannot determine the path they choose nor the consequences. So to wrap up, I am glad you are back. I would approach my son this way: 1. What treatment are you going to get? These to me seem to be the options. 2. Treatment will determine your living choices. There are crisis programs that offer 3 day intervention. There are longer term residential treatment programs. There is voluntary hospitalization (or involuntary). You can call the mental health crisis team to get him evaluated if you feel he is unable right now of taking care of himself. 3. Once he gets stabilized he can go to a program like Job Corps (if in USA) where he is housed, fed and trained for free. There are options for him. But you are not it. I am glad you are back. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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