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A step backwards for him and me
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 740476" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear TL.</p><p></p><p>Have a great time on vacation and try not to worry. Please.</p><p></p><p>I think I understand your son's logic. </p><p></p><p>Maybe he felt he was "safer" doing the leaving himself. Maybe he felt that he would feel bad about himself, and vulnerable, and might relapse if he were to be fired. And to guard against that, he left first. He did it to himself before anybody could do it to him. He took control. </p><p></p><p>I can really see the logic in this. It is like when people leave a relationship in order that they are not rejected. Or act hard to get with somebody they really want. And push the person away. </p><p></p><p>Although it is self-defeating, if you are a highly vulnerable or sensitive person, it can protect the ego to act first. When he feels safer, more sure of himself, he will be able to tolerate more.</p><p></p><p>Did you ever find out why he did not answer your text?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 740476, member: 18958"] Dear TL. Have a great time on vacation and try not to worry. Please. I think I understand your son's logic. Maybe he felt he was "safer" doing the leaving himself. Maybe he felt that he would feel bad about himself, and vulnerable, and might relapse if he were to be fired. And to guard against that, he left first. He did it to himself before anybody could do it to him. He took control. I can really see the logic in this. It is like when people leave a relationship in order that they are not rejected. Or act hard to get with somebody they really want. And push the person away. Although it is self-defeating, if you are a highly vulnerable or sensitive person, it can protect the ego to act first. When he feels safer, more sure of himself, he will be able to tolerate more. Did you ever find out why he did not answer your text? [/QUOTE]
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