RE, this hits me full in the face. I am doing this right now. For the first time ever, not responding, even when I feel urges, sometimes strong urges, to KNOW and to SAY and to INFLUENCE...let's call it what it is...CONTROL. I am not doing it.
And then, this is what is next. Living in the land of Uncertainty. Ugh. And this reminds me of a recent post of Cedar's where she talked about the DNA of mother and child---how incredibly strong that cord is. It is a thick cord, RE, and it stretches and stretches and stretches. It is our job to cut that cord. And in doing that we are free and we are setting our precious adult children free.
And it is SO hard to let them completely go. It is harder than enabling was and that was the most draining, frustrating and helpless thing I have ever done that seemed to go on absolutely forever.
I had to be completely spent and so sick and tired, RE, to want to change to something---anything---different and I had to have an open mind to listen to a new way.
And now, I am learning this new way, every day, through hard work.
I love this book and I copied these quotes to a page that I will print out and post on my mirror. I will read this book, RE.
Keep telling me and keep showing me, please. You are a teacher. Thank you.
